How to say no to a friend's daughter?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I think that the fact that you can’t even invite your own cousin makes this simple.

“No. I’m sorry, we are really tight in terms of guests. We couldn’t even invite so and so…” and DONE. That guy can be mad if he wants, but it isn’tyour problem.

 

Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

prahajess:  That’s it. Simple, to the point, no room for negotiation. You aren’t responsible for his reaction.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

“We have always wanted a fairly small wedding so we unfortunately had to keep our guest list down. Please don’t take it personally.”

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Post # 7
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45245 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Lauraine:  Given that FI didn’t speak up when his friend first raised the issue, I suggest he do it as soon as possible and not wait for an opportunity to present itself.

This friend may very well now be working on scheduling a visit with his daughter for that weekend.

FI needs to phone him and tell him that after discussing it with you, “we are unable to accomodate any extra guests.”

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