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We got a few unbelievably cheap gifts from some guests.  Namely a veterinarian who gave us $25 in plastic storage containers from her and her husband, and a big wig in business and her husband who gave us a $25 check.  At least cover your dinner, jerks.  Oh, and someone else who didn't even give a card and I know is not going to.  It's one thing if you're struggling and it's a whole other thing if you gave way less than anyone else and you're rolling in the dough. 

Anyway, I don't really want to say thanks since overall they each left us way about $85 in the hole, but I must.  So, how do I go about it? 

I agree with the other posters- you say "thanks" just like you would for any other gift, and try to remember that they came and supported your union and move on with your life. While I can really see that this would be annoying, it is true that they don't owe you a gift, and they did get you something, so you should thank them for what they got you.

Also, I second the poster noting that veterinarians don't make a lot of money. In most places, this is very true- they tend toward mid-range wages (for their degree level), coupled with HUGE student debt. Even for the high-up businessman, keep in mind that you don't know the whole story behind someone's finances. Someone can appear to bevery wealthy, even while they are struggling. Maybe it was a rough month for these guests. And even if it wasn't, and they're making tons of purchases and living the high life, you can't dictate how they see fit to spend their money. Say "thanks" and move on- this isn't worth you being upset over.

Hah I had someone who came to the wedding who gave us a $12 Hallmark picture frame.; I had been her MOH a couple of years before and spend THOUSANDS on being in her wedding.  She was mad because she didn't get to be in my  wedding, so she showed it through her gift. I also had an out of work cousin who did odd jobs so he could put $40 in a card because he "had to give us something." We were just happy he could attend. 

But the crappiest gift I got was from an elderly relative.  Some gold edged china bowl with this really ugly design.  But I wrote an nice thank you, thinking I'd take it to goodwill.  After receiving my thank you note she told my Mom that it's an antique she and her husband picked up on a trip to Europe many years ago.  She said the bowl held many happy memories for her, and since they don't have children she wanted it to go to someone who means a lot to her.  Fortunately I found this out before I went to goodwill with the bowl, and it now sits in a place of honor in my living room!

In defense of the $25 people -- about 20 years ago $25 -$50 was considered to be an acceptable amount for wedding gifts, especially if they don't know the couple very well.  Only recently has it gone up to $50-$100 or more.   Maybe they just didn't know . . .  

Wow, well the best way to write a thank you note for cash (in my opinion), is not to acknowledge the specific $$ amount.  I would write something like this:

"We appreciate your attendance at the wedding and the opportunity to spend time with you.  Thank you for your contribution to our new lives together as husband and wife".

And try to add something personal in there.  It's okay to feel frustrated, but don't let it show in your thank you note.

Who gave you the idea that veterinarians are "rolling in dough?!?!"  What do you do for a living?  Would you like people to judge your wedding based on what they THINK your income is?

I'm not going there.

What I will say is that due to our AWFUL financial situation this year, we gave a couple a Brita pitcher worth $28 dollars. And that's it. And we felt bad, but we knew they understood because they are in shitty financial straits too. Even if they weren't, I'm sure they were still grateful.