Post # 1
We got a few unbelievably cheap gifts from some guests. Namely a veterinarian who gave us $25 in plastic storage containers from her and her husband, and a big wig in business and her husband who gave us a $25 check. At least cover your dinner, jerks. Oh, and someone else who didn’t even give a card and I know is not going to. It’s one thing if you’re struggling and it’s a whole other thing if you gave way less than anyone else and you’re rolling in the dough.
Anyway, I don’t really want to say thanks since overall they each left us way about $85 in the hole, but I must. So, how do I go about it?
Post # 3
That sucks, but you do it like you would any other gift. Just pretend you like it.
Post # 4
Just send them a regular thank you… look at it this way, they could have gotten you nothing.
I’m just warning you now. You’re probably going to take some heat over the “cover your plate” “they left us in the hole” thing.
Post # 5
First of all – hahahaha at your post title. Love it.
In terms of saying thanks, you send the thank you card with the “thanks for the ____” and then fill the rest of the space with things like “We are glad you could share our day with us” and “We hope you enjoyed the evening”.
I agree with june42011 – you pretend you like it, even though it sucks.
Post # 6
Unfortunately you have to say “thank you” as if it was something you actually liked. No one is obligated to get anyone a gift for their wedding, as weird as that sounds.
Also, veterinarians don’t make that much money compared to other “human” doctors.
Post # 7
just send a generic thank you for the gift note.
Post # 8
Remember why you invited them. Did you invite them so that they could cover your plate? Or did you invite them because you wanted them to share your special day with you?
Send a thank you for the gift and for sharing your day with you. And remember that no one is obligated to bring you a gift.
Post # 9
They gave a gift, say thank you.
You never know someone’s financial status. Alot of people put on fronts of having more than they do, or maybe they’re going through something. It’s not your place to judge them.
It doesn’t sound like you are very close to these couples, maybe they feel the same about you.
Like other posters said, noone is actually obligated to give you anything. So don’t be a post-bridezilla and be polite.
Post # 10
I agree with the other posters- you say “thanks” just like you would for any other gift, and try to remember that they came and supported your union and move on with your life. While I can really see that this would be annoying, it is true that they don’t owe you a gift, and they did get you something, so you should thank them for what they got you.
Also, I second the poster noting that veterinarians don’t make a lot of money. In most places, this is very true- they tend toward mid-range wages (for their degree level), coupled with HUGE student debt. Even for the high-up businessman, keep in mind that you don’t know the whole story behind someone’s finances. Someone can appear to bevery wealthy, even while they are struggling. Maybe it was a rough month for these guests. And even if it wasn’t, and they’re making tons of purchases and living the high life, you can’t dictate how they see fit to spend their money. Say “thanks” and move on- this isn’t worth you being upset over.
Post # 11
we got a few crap gifts, and i just did the whole kill them with kindness thing. it’s not worth it to be rude to them. just remember next time you owe them a gift.
Post # 12
you never know someone’s financial situation, regardless of their occupation. also, i never understood how people were supposed to know how much they were supposed to give to “cover their plate”.
Post # 13
Write a mean note with your real thoughts.
Write an appropriately kind nice note.
Tell your husband to hold one in each hand behind his back and blindly pick.
It’s thank you card roulette.
(I kid, don’t send the mean note)
Post # 14
Wow. I hope this doesn’t reignite the “cover the plate” debate, because we’ve been there and done that around here. You’re really not going to like what a lot of bees have to say on the topic.
That being said, be gracious. They gave you a gift. Say thank you. They didn’t have to give you anything, since gifts are never required. In addition, I think it would be helpful if, when you do say thank you, you try really hard to mean it. It will make you feel better.
Post # 15
“At least cover your dinner, jerks.”
I can sympathize with feeling disappointed, but a wedding is not supposed to be a get rich quick scheme. Have the wedding you can afford and be thankful for the love and support of family and friends. Anything extra is just that, extra.
LOL @ troubled
Post # 16
I agree with mrsmdphd. I am sure you will find the containers very useful and I am sure the cash will be helpful too. If you really don’t want the containers or the cash, you can send them to me. Personally, I will be thankful for any gifts given; no matter how big or small and in my opinion, their gift is them coming to the wedding; not something materialistic.