- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
How can I be polite without having to endure unwanted and often times incredibly rude “advice”? My grandmother sat me down and told me that I was not to vow to “obey” my husband, that I should get married in my hometown, that I should include my cousins as bridesmaids, that I should pay for my family to attend the wedding if it were out of town, etc. And when she asked to see the ring, she held her hand out for me to hand it to her…
I’m not sure what to say in response to stuff like this. I told her that it was incredibly important to FI *AND* me to get married in his hometown, in his church, with his sisters as bridesmaids, etc. My family has the ability, financially, health-wise, etc to travel to the wedding. His family is not able to. And it’s far more important to me that my FI’s mother and father are there than it is if my rude aunt shows up. I’m not close to my cousins so I’d never ask them to be my bridesmaids. Just everything she said was the complete opposite of what I’d feel comfortable doing and every time I tried to get a word in edgewise she’d cut me off. She’s been married three times, I think she’s had her fair share of weddings to plan. How do I tell her to back off without being rude?