(Closed) How to say Thanks but No Thanks…

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Repeat after me: (Smile as you say this.) “Thanks for your suggestion, grandma.  I’ll take that into consideration while planning my wedding.”  That’s it.  No outright “no”, no attitude, but no yes either.  Tactful and classy.  =)

Post # 6
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7175 posts
Busy Beekeeper

@hazel920:fourth that 🙂

I had a friend finally enlighten me on this tactic a few months in to planning and you have NO IDEA how wonderful it works!!

The thanks helps them feel like they’ve been listened to – while being perfectly clear that you plan to make your own decisions.

Post # 7
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695 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@hazel920, that’s exactly what I was going to suggest!

I know it might be hard to stomach, but I think it’s probably the least painful.

Then, when you make your plans, if grandma comments on them and says, “but I thought you were going to do XYZ,” you can just say something like, “FI and I talked over what would be best for us, and decided on ABC.” Don’t feel the need to explain any further.

Hang in there 🙂

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