How to Solicit Monetary Gifts

posted 3 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

If people ask you directly, let them know that you have everything you need, but are trying to save for a home. 

Although be prepared for people to give you some very random gifts.  Some people just don’t like to give cash at weddings.

 

 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 1993

@GMelanie:  That’s a tough one.  It will be hard for YOU to reply to these questions without seeming greedy or moneygrubbing, when I can see that isn’t the intention at all. I think traditionally the mother of the bride replies to those sorts of inquiries. For example, if you are being asked by family, perhaps your mother (or MOH if friends are asking) could contact them and say “Janet and Peter haven’t registered anywhere, because they already have most of the things they could use for their home. They’re currently hoping to buy a new house (or yacht, or trip to the moon) in the spring, and they are saving for that.” That should be enough of a clue. If not, oh well, enjoy the extra towels.

Post # 5
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885 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Telling people you don’t have a registry should clue them in.  But be prepared, because some people will still want to get you a physical gift, despite it being clear that a monetary gift would be most appreciated.  But most people will take the hint.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@GMelanie:  If I were you, I’d create a small registry at Bed, Bath, and Beyond (with a few items in a few diff price points).  Who knows – maybe you want to update your towels (or something).  BUT – the beauty of BBB is that you can return your registry (and off-registry gifts, too, I think),for CASH

Sneaky, yeah, probably, but it is a nice was to end up with money without asking for it 🙂

 

Post # 7
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347 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Housefund? I’m really not sure. I also suggest registering and return the items. Maybe not all at the same time, you know? 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

hatchmyhouse.com

That’s what FI and I are doing. It lets your guests “sponsor” something for a “housefund”, but in all honesty, it’s just money going into your paypal account.

It’s something fun for your guests to do because it lets them feel like they’re really helping your future.

 

We also have a small registry on the side for little house items we’ve always wanted.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Principessa Bunny:  

@GMelanie:  

As an example, this is what the registry looks like: I’m such a huge supporter of this site and I know a few couples who used it and loved it.

I’m not sure if Wedding Bee will allow me to do it, but this is what our registry looks like. We haven’t sent it to relatives yet, it’s empty now, but it’s pretty cool.

 

http://www.hatchmyhouse.com/weddings/benjamin-and-jacqueleen-go-home

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@JackiBean:  That’s really neat! I’m assuming that when the item is ‘purchased’it can be purchased again by the next guest? Is there a maximum that can be purchased?

How did you make your gusts aware that you had this site? Did you put it in the invitation or envelope?

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Principessa Bunny:  Actually, the site said that once an item has been “purchaed”, it goes gray to show the progress of the house until the whole house has been purchased. If you noticed, you can buy items outside the house and then inside, where there’s a ton of “items” for guests to “sponsor”, like a car, a microwave, a toilet and so forth.

 

I have mine on our wedding website. We’ll be putting the wedding website address on our save the dates, but that’s it.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@JackiBean:  It’s really interesting, such a great idea. I gues that there’s a limit to how much of a down payment you can collect if the items can only be purchased once.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Principessa Bunny:  Supposedly there’s no limit. When you hoover over the item, it gives you a minimum amount to give, but there’s absolutely no limit to how much someone can give! And I think, even if 1000 people donate, they might create more items, or people can double sponsor something.

That’s a good point, though!

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Just smile and say you chose not to register! They will get the hint.

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