- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2015
Hi Bees! Looking for some advice/input on how to split up wedding costs in our situation, specifically food wise.
Our wedding is not until July 2015, but we will be booking our dream venue in the next week. Our biggest cost in our budget is food, $60 per person. FMIL has been nagging FI about money and how we will be splitting up the costs for weeks. She wants it split equally into thirds: FI family, us, and my family.
My family told me they would help us out as much as they can, but are certainly not as financially stable as FILs (my family is younger, still putting my siblings through college, paying mortgage, etc while FILs are older, retired, and both kids are out of the house).
Also, FMIL’s guestlist is at 90+ while my family’s list is at 40 max, and FI and I have about 20 friends who we will be inviting. If I had to guess right now, my family will have about 25 people attending for sure, FI will have at least 70 (close family) guests, and most of our friends will attend.
Is it fair to ask her that we split it according to guests? and I think FI and I would chip in for each side as well, plus pay for our friends.
Should we also try to explain to her that Grandma’s brother’s kids’ families don’t need to be invited?
Should we even be trying to settle this now seeing as our invitations won’t be sent out for at least a year?
We go in for a tasting Monday, and I know she will bring the topic of money up so I’d like to be prepared for some type of response. I hope I’ve given enough details, I accidentally closed out of my first post. Thanks everyone!