How to stand up to your boss without being 'difficult'?

posted 3 years ago in Career
Post # 3
42157 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Deejayelle:  Whew! I don’t envy you the task of dealing with her.

“_______, I would like to suggest that before you leave today we put our plan in writing so we all know what’s expected of us and what we have agreed upon. There seems to have been some confusion in the past where the staff had a different understanding than the employer.

I think this will help us all to make more productive use of our time and ensure that the finished product meets your expectations.

I would like to volunteer to be the first one to flip chart the plan as it evolves. Let’s review each section of the meeting and  make sure I have heard everyone correctly.”

Make sure you have flip charts, a whiteboard or chalkboard in the room.

Post # 4
1817 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I like @julies1949:‘s idea of writing things down.

My boss can be a micromanager. Sometimes I’ll have to make a phone call, and she’ll tell me what to say, down to the “thank you.” I am totally serious. Sometimes I’ll ask her very sweetly, “Would you like to make this phone call instead?” She seems to get the hint. I’m pretty sure I can handle a phone call. It’s so demeaning.

Also, sometimes she’ll ask me to do something completely useless and unnecessary when I actually have real work to do. I don’t mind doing the menial things, but I’m also not going to take shit when the real work doesn’t get done quickly enough. So I’ll say, “Ok, I have this (real work) to do, and you just asked me to do this (pointless task). What would you prefer I take care of first?” She usually tells me not to worry about the pointless things and to worry about what actually needs to be worried about.

I find repeating what she says back to her works well (as described in the above example). Then she hears how she sounds. And she can correct me if I’m not fully understanding her.

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