- 5 years ago
How do you stand up to a boss who is very abrupt, abrasive and harsh? I can take constructive criticism, but not incessant nitpicking. My manager is coming from 2 hours away next week to have a big meeting with me and my colleagues, and she’s a very dominating personality. She has been investigated over bullying allegations more than once (we didn’t make those claims). She is one of those types who says one thing, expects something else, and expects you to be a mind reader, and dictates exactly what we should do and when, then expects us to do something completely different (my colleague got into a yelling match with her over the phone yesterday over the fact that she keeps changing her mind on things and just expects us to know about it without her telling us!). She is the sole cause of our workplace stress – she’s not a fair boss, and she is very disorganised – we’re constantly out of the loop about things that directly affect us. She also organised a ‘surprise attack’ on us by sending our mini-bosses down to check we were doing the right thing. They drove 2 hours just to check up on us! This makes me so angry. Of course we were doing the right thing, we had nothing at all to hide. It’s just the thought that our manager seems to have no faith in our abilities that is insulting.
When me and my colleagues have to travel to their office, they expect us there by 8.30/9am. When they come (usually around 10/11), they will arrange a time for a meeting, show up late (like an hour), and right when our lunch breaks are supposed to start!
I know this meeting is going to be a complete disaster, and it doesn’t help that the manager gives us no opportunity to speak up. I’m not a confrontational person and avoid it at all costs, but it’s gotten to a point where we are unfairly targeted and treated like crap, when we’re all doing the best we can. I just need tips on how to stand up for myself without looking like a difficult employee. Any help would be appreciated!