Post # 1
Hi everyone, we are having a dry wedding as neither of us drink and we also dont want to go through the whole expense and hoopla of dealing with liquor licenses and buying alcohol. We do want to put a little note on our website so people are not negatively surprised at the reception (some of our friends form school (uni) would probably expect alcohol served).
Um… How do I word it? Do I put it on the Welcome page (currently this is where dress code info is), or do I make a new “Q&A” page? We do not currently have a general information page and have put info in various applicable palces (eg, No children is on the RSVP page, dress code on the welcome page along with “its outdoors in sunshine, bring sunscreen”)
I’m just not sure how to phrase it and where to put it…
Post # 4
I guess on the Welcome page where you have other info about the day you could put something super simple like, “Please note that no alcohol will be served. We cannot wait to celebrate with you!”
That being said, you don’t have anything to apologize to your guests for, nor do you owe anyone an explanation. I would consider passing it by word of mouth to your close friends or family and most people will get the message beforehand.
Post # 5
For our website, I’m going to write on the reception part, “Come celebrate and partake in dinner, cake, coffee & tea.” Then somewhere I am going to write, “If you want to stay down and continue the party, these places are a great start.” I will then probably link to two-three bar type places.
We don’t drink for recovery reasons… I feel guilty about not giving my guests alcohol, but it would just be a bad idea to have so many of our friends with alcohol issues around the substance.
Post # 6
Honestly, I would not say anything.
You can put on your website about suggested places to go for people who wish to continue celebrating after your reception ends.
Spread it by word of mouth instead, if you feel the need to say anything.
Post # 7
It might be nice to have an information page on your site. Just to keep it simple and easy for those who would like to know. It could also include the directions, local attractions and places to stay. As for the wording just say; No alcohol will be served.
Post # 8
I agree with a previous poster that you don’t “owe” your gests alcohol, and so you have nothing to apologize for. Adding something to your website implies that you feel self conscious or need to apologize. If you think people really need to know, word of mouth is a good way, but the guests that would be annoyed will likely make up their mind to have a bad time before they even get there, so personally I think you’re better off not saying anything.
Also, by letting people know beforehand you will likely find some people came “prepared” with flasks and whatnot, and that sucks trust me. Nothing worse than a fun, alcohol free wedding with three or four drunk people making a scene! One time I went to a dry wedding where people were forewarned, and a bunch of people had coolers of beer in their car….so a BIG chunk of the guests spent most of the reception in the parking lot drinking. It was so rude, and I felt so bad for the couple.
Post # 9
We found that no one really read (or remembered) any of the details from our wedding site. They liked it at the time but forgot about it and didn’t go back when questions came up.
Having said that…if it was something really important we put it on the RSVP page because we thought at the very least people would have to read the info to RSVP.
Post # 10
Have you already sent out your invitations? I’m going to a dry wedding this summer, and they worded it, “Please join us at 4pm for social hour, dinner and dancing to follow.” Something like that.
Post # 11
I wouldn’t say anything. There’s really no need to discuss it. If you want, you can talk to family and friends and let them pass it by word of mouth. My parents did that for my brother’s dry wedding – and it was quite humorous because all of the drinkers simply didn’t come. It really showed who was *truly* there for the event.