How to stop the "Are You Pregnant Yet?!" questions – HELP!

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@Cummins59:  I would just tell people that when it happens you will let them know. You want to enjoy being a married couple and enjoy each other’s company before having children. Honestly it is nobody’s business and you shouldn’t have to explain yourself. It does get rather annoying. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Smile (with a bit of a smirk), wink, and tell them “we’re working on it.” That usually shuts them up!

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Cummins59:  I’m not even ENGAGED yet and people are asking me this CONSTANTLY. I suppose it’s because we’re getting “old” (I’m 34, so is 42) but COME ON. Since all my cousins keep having babies, I like to say “Well if the cousins would stop getting knocked up long enough for me to afford to buy my own kid stuff instead of a million baby shower gifts, I’d think about it!” 

I do, however, like the idea of somehow pointing out that they are essentially asking if you’re having unprotected sex yet. Maybe “Well, we bought a mega pack of condoms at Costco right before the wedding and didn’t want to waste them, so maybe after those are done. It was an entire flat of boxes, so it should be a couple months yet.” would work. 😛 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I started getting asked this by my MIL probably 5 or 6 years before we were even married.  I always just responded with “someday, maybe”.  We were undecided up until a year or two ago if we wanted kids but I never told anyone that, I didn’t feel a need to justify my decisions to other people.  So I’d just give some vague answer and move on.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve been married for a little over two years, and seem to get this question at least once a week, but from co-workers more than family. I usually just smile and say “Have you met my husband?” (my husband works there too, so they get the reference), and then add that I have a dog that takes up enough of my time as it is.

You’re right, it is no one else’s business. I agree with coming up with witty responses to shut people up!

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I get very quiet and put a very solemn look on my face and well up a bit. Then look at the floor. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Cummins59:  My response to that is that “I don’t like kids.”  This usually stops any further questions.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We just keep telling people we already have a cat. 🙂

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I have heard some funny ones around here sometimes like “That’s a very rude thing to ask” and then staring them dead on in the eyes.  If I start getting those comments again, I might have to just start saying F off!  We are most likely going to be CBC (childfree by choice) so I’m not really planning on having one.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Tell them that you’re enjoying the practicing of baby making too much to ruin it with a baby quite now.    The level of detail that you go into (how much further into graphic detail beyond PPs condom idea) would depend on whether they are being truly nosy or just making idle conversation.  I think that sometimes people who ask these sorts of questions aren’t malicious, they just don’t know what else to say to have a conversation.  

 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Cummins59:  Yes, the awkward silence is so, so intense. Then if someone asks you say “I just can’t talk about it”

Or you ignore it all together.

Or you scoff and change the subject. 

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My fiancé and I probably won’t have kids, and I have learned to just grin and say something like “no, however we love practicing!” 😉 As soon as you orient them to the fact they are talking about your sex life, they usually laugh awkwardly and move on.  I wish I had the guts to ask them how their sex life is, or mention how the sex seems to stop when the kids arrive and we enjoy it WAY too much to ruin it! Lol

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