How to stop thinking about weddings when you're a bridesmaid?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

missgrace91:   Has your SO indicated that you talk about weddings too much?

I think there is a difference between discussing a friends wedding that you’re both going to be a part of, as opposed to always bringing up your upcoming proposal/wedding. If he has hinted that you talk about weddings in general too much or you yourself think you talk about it too much, then I’d just try my hardest not to. He doesn’t need to be kept in the loop on every little thing you’ve discussed/planned in regards to your friends wedding. If he asks about the plans, I would fill him in, but otherwise…I’d just try and not bring it up too much.

I know with my FI, at one point he felt like I was discussing weddings too much and he felt like there wasn’t any opportunity to surprise me with a proposal (which he verbalized to me) So, I made a conscious effort to stop with all the wedding talk. Shortly after that, a proposal came! And after he proposed, he actually told me he noticed that I wasn’t bringing up weddings as much and he appreciated that.

But it’s next to impossible to stop thinking about weddings. The only thing I would suggest is try and keep busy and keep your mind preoccupied. You know a proposal is coming in the next few months, and that is huge! Just enjoy this time!

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by  raylight.
Post # 3
2364 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014


missgrace91:  Yup.  This was me last year!

There was nothing I could do about it, honestly.  But he was getting the impression that I was all about the wedding, the wedding, the wedding.  So I had to reword what I said out loud to him and would talk less about a wedding and more about our marriage and life together. 

It’ll come!  Until then, NOTHING will put your mind at ease lol.  It didn’t for me! 

Post # 6
4653 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

following to see others advice! I am so ready to be engaged. My SO just got back from a bachelor party and is in the wedding coming up in a couple of weeks, then I am the MOH for my bff in october and my SO is also a groomsmen. It is soooo hard to keep quiet. 

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