Post # 1
A few months back my FI’s Aunt messaged him asking if her kid’s partners were invited and we said no (extra costs, over numbers already, never met them, venue restrictions). She then sent messages back and forth to him asking if the other cousins partners were invited as it wouldn’t be fair if her kids couldnt bring their partners if others were invited. We said only one partner was invited but that was because they’re engaged and expecting a baby and they’ve been together for 8 years.
She then asked when would we let her know if they were able to come if people dropped out… my FI didn’t reply as he’d had enough trying to justify things to her.
With two weeks to go, should I get him to send her a message to say they’re still not able to come? No one has pulled out (yet) and we’re actually already over on numbers. She’s the kind of person who’d just turn up with them…
Post # 3
Maybe something like “we’re looking forward to seeing the 4 of you!”
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - Greenbrier Country Club
Couuld you have a bouncer?
Post # 5
@Pinkmoon: Agreed. This is straightforward, but friendly. Gets the point across without being nasty.
Post # 6
@Laurengrapes: Since your FI kinda left is unresolved, I would say what @Pinkmoon: said, its right to the point and obvious that the kids cannot bring their partners.
Post # 7
Very similar thing happened at my brother’s wedding! Except my brother didn’t even know the kids had boyfriends, because they talk to us so infrequently. one couple hadn’t even started dating til 2 months before the invitation. haha.
After threats and emotional warfare and a fight that tore my family apart, the kids and my aunt/uncle won, and they brought the uninvited guests and partied it up on my brother’s dime.
If I learned anything from the misery of that experience it is that somethings just aren’t worth fighting over. I’ve cut out other people so these random strangers and cousins I don’t talk to can attend my wedding, because I’d rather have that then deal with the nonsense caused at my brother’s wedding (he was married in June 2013 :)).