Post # 1
We’re doing a simple one page invitation. We’re not doing RSVP cards. We’re going to use the RSVP tool on our wedsite.
We want to make sure people reply and don’t put off going to the wedsite. (I’ve heard this can be a problem…as with all RSVPs).
SO we’re wondering if any of you bees have any suggestions on how to word the RSVP strongly without sounding crazy demanding?
All ideas welcome! And just a note: we’re not necessarily looking for Etiquette…though this seemed like the only category that fit for our question.
Post # 3
@icetea: I don’t know that people will use the RSVP tool, no matter how strongly you word it. People aren’t great about RSVPing regardless, but online RSVP’s seem so informal, that people may not see them as mandatory, no matter how you word it…
Post # 4
I don’t think any strong wording belongs on a wedding invitation.
If you are not doing response cards, maybe include your phone number. What about the people that don’t use the computer?
Post # 5
Could you do it by word of mouth? No RSVP=No Seat. But there will always be those you have to call to remind or ask for their RSVP.
Post # 6
I think there are two schools of RSVPing– pulling your hair out to get people to RSVP the correct way or dealing with the chaos of having people RSVP in the way they want.
If the only way you want RSVPs is via a website, I would have something along the lines of “The favor of your reply is requested by May 20th at http://www.weddingwire/icetea“. Please make sure your wedding website will allow people to RSVP on mobile phone (ie no flash). Nothing irks FI more than when he can’t do it on his phone/tablet. Having to pull out the laptop to RSVP means we will put it off. Then come May 21, email and text people reminders with the link. If I get texted a link, I do it right away.
If you are okay with chaos, you can say “The favor of your reply is requested by May 20th at http://www.weddingwire/icetea, [email protected], or 123-456-7890″. My best friend had RSVPs from texts, emails, websites, and cards and had a great response rate. However, only 25% of guests RSVPed her prefered way.
Post # 7
Unfortunately, there are some people who are going to miss the inference that an RSVP is still necessary for planning purposes, if an RSVP card is not included.
If you aren’t utilizing the cards for whatever reason, you might end up stuck having to contact guests who haven’t responded prior to the wedding to get your final headcount, because I don’t know that there is a way to include on your invites that a visit to the wedsite is mandatory.
Post # 8
@Pollywog: We were mostly looking for wording…and your “Requesting the favor…” sounds good to us. And we did do a test run to make sure you can do it all by mobile 🙂 FI wants to make a card with a QR code so people can just scan it with their phones…lol I’m not sure if we really need all that!
We’re not too worried about getting the RSVPs back…we have under 50 guests…so it’s not gonna get crazy. But we wanted to make sure we were using the strongest wording possible…we read that one thing people don’t do well is be clear about DOING the online rsvp but usually just print the link on the invite…so we’re trying to avoid that.