Post # 1
My fiancé has been posting a few things here and there about being happy that our big day is drawing near. We are having a small intimate wedding (28 guests). My fiancé has a lot of friends and we could have easily had a wedding with 300 guests which include just his friends. But we decided that we would rather have the small intimate wedding with our closest and dear friends. Needless to say, he’s had some friends write rude comments such as, “I thought we were friends” or “Thanks for the invite”. When he tried to explain that we are having an intimate wedding, their comments became even uglier. I know he tries to brush it off and not let it get to him, but I know these ugly comments hurt him a little.
Has anyone encountered something similar? What do you say after apologizing for having a small wedding, that you weren’t able to invited everyone but your friends still shun you?
Post # 3
@Autumnsnow: What do you say after apologizing for having a small wedding, that you weren’t able to invited everyone but your friends still shun you?
if that is how they behave, are they really your friends? i would think true friends would be understanding and supportive.
Post # 4
That’s why you don’t post about the wedding for non-guests to see! It’s an awkward situation for sure. There is nothing else you can do other than explain you’re keeping it tiny.
Post # 5
Even if they were ok with it at the beginning, repeatedly posting about an event they were hoping to attend and were excluded from is just baiting them. No one likes exclusion, and your FI should choose his posts more wisely in the future. If he’s super excited for your wedding, aren’t you the ideal audience to discuss that with instead of his whole enormous friends list?
Post # 6
I would post a nice blanket statement as my latest status. Something to the effect of if you are a family member or friend on our/my FB page then I love you dearly and wish you could share in our special day. However since my lottery numbers have not come up I do not have it within my/our means to feed the world…or even the portion of it that I love for just one meal. Please forgive us for not being rich but just know on th at day you will be in our hearts and I hope you keep us in yours.
Post # 7
@Taeyers: For the record, he hasn’t been constantly posting. I want back to look and he was tagged in a post. Even if someone raves about something doesn’t give other people the right to be ugly about it!