- 5 years ago
So I posted before about my bully of a sister (and step sister). I took the advice you gave me, and I haven’t talked to either since. I’ve decided to cut T out of my life completely- she already did that mostly, and I’ve decided it’s just going to be easier on me if I follow suit. So I deleted her from facebook, which since I live in a different state was our only real way of communication. I’ve also talked to my mom and won’t be heading to my sister’s place for Christmas this year. I know it’s going to hurt both me and my family, but I am not willing to be the butt of everything again. I don’t want people to be bullying me. I will stay with my mom while everyone else is at my step sister’s place, and hope to God I’m making the right choice.
E and I haven’t talked since she called me when I was traveling. I haven’t messaged her, texted her or facebooked her. It’s been hard, but I think no contact has been a good thing for now. Eventually, I’m going to start talking to her again, but I’m not going to let her bully me.
Now here comes the next hard part. I have talked to my Fiance, and he agrees that he does not want T to be at our wedding. Our wedding should be surrounded by people who love us, not bullies. So she will not be receiving an invite. At all. The harder one is E. I still want her in my bridal party. She’s my sister, and I feel like she should be there. However I’ve made the choice that I do not want her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. I’ve picked my best friend to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, knowing that she will stand beside me the entire day, and make me feel special and she will be my friend no matter what.
But I’m worried about telling E that I do not want her to be my Maid/Matron of Honor. She assumes she will be, talking about the speach she’s gonna give, and how she’s gonna make sure she stands out from the rest of the bridesmaids, and plan my bachlorette and stuff. There’s things she can do that I know my best friend would be ok giving to her (like the baclorette), but I don’t know how to go about telling E that she won’t be my Maid/Matron of Honor, simply a Bridesmaid or Best Man. I feel that by giving her the Bridesmaid or Best Man title, if she flips out, it will be easier for her to not be apart of the wedding, and it won’t have that big of an effect on my wedding day.
How should I go about telling her that she won’t be my MOH? I have to ask my BM’s soon (wedding is in April, and they will all have to travel so they need to know soon). I know it sounds so silly that I want a relationship with a bully, but she’s still my sister.