(Closed) How to teach an old dog new tricks? Help!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
6248 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Maybe you could make a list of chores and all their time-frames, such as the laundry is done every Sunday.  Then sit down with him and calmly discuss these time-frames and see what he says.  I grew up with two brothers and if they had their way the bathroom would only get cleaned once a month (*gags*).  You two need to compromise about who does what chores and when.  Rotate if you need to.  I agree with you, he needs to do his share.

Post # 4
491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I second BayStateBride’s suggestion(s). Sit down and make a list of all the chores that need to be completed, and the two of you can decide who does what. If he hates doing laundry that’s fine, but he can vacuum the bedrooms instead. Also discuss which day things should be done, or done by. That way he can’t say “Oh, I didn’t clean the washroom because it didn’t look dirty!” because it doesn’t matter if it’s dirty, Wednesday is clean-washroom day.

Also, you said that up until now his mom did everything for him. This is sad but maybe he really doesn’t know how to clean the things you ask, or where to start. My friend’s husband would always say “But babe, you do it so much better!” If that’s the case, you could *show him* how to do his chores that way he has no excuse. Once he gets in the routine it will just be another responsibility like brushing his teeth every morning. Just start slowly, be firm, and explain that you are a team and should have equal responsibilites.

Post # 5
663 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Vegas Wedings

Good advice so far.

Do you share the same bathroom? Is there another one in the house so that you could each have your own? And, maybe you should stop doing his laundry for a bit and see what happens. He might start doing his own…?

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