(Closed) How to tell a friend she isn’t invited?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Well first things first. Hide her comment on FB. That should give her a hint.

You have a long time before you really have to worry about this. Try to minimize contact and avoid talking about the wedding with her. If she brings up being in your wedding party, just tell her that you really appreciate her interest and enthusiasm, and it’s sweet of her to volunteer. However, you’re keeping it small and, for obvious reasons, you prefer to include friends who have been really supportive of your relationship with your Fiance. Tell her honestly that it really bothered you that she acted like she had some sort of claim over you to rival your FI’s, and that it made you look at your friendship in a new light. See what she says.

I wouldn’t tell her right now that you aren’t planning to invite her. That’s just asking for needless drama. Avoid contact and hopefully by the time you send out invitations she will have figured it out. Just b/c you attend the same school/live in the same town doesn’t mean you can’t be busy “finishing the reading” or “looking over your notes” any time she tries to engage you in conversation before class, or “on your way to meet with a professor” when she runs into you on campus.

Post # 4
207 posts
Helper bee

I just wouldn’t mention ANYTHING about the wedding to her and plan as you intend…to NOT invite her. If you really don’t want her there, you shouldn’t feel pressured about the situation. If your mind is made up, let it be!

Post # 5
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with PPs.  Just don’t talk to her about the wedding and simply don’t invite her.  Hide her comments on FB if she makes anymore. 

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