How to tell – advice needed!

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I was 7 weeks pregnant at my wedding.  We were engaged for 2 years, so people certainly didn’t think we only got married because I was pregnant!

I told my very close-minded, judgmental grandfather I was due “in the spring” and left it at that.

Everyone else really couldn’t have cared less, seeing as how I’m a grown-up and all.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@DandSwedding:  I get where you’re coming from, but it’s your grandparents issue to deal with, not yours.  

Trust me, they’ll do the math and figure it out. Our baby is due 2.5 weeks before our first wedding anniversary and people definitely take a second to do the math, even though it was a whole 3 months before we got pregnant.  If you’re happy and confident in the choices you’ve made for your life, that is all that matters.  You can’t control how others think or feel about them.

Post # 6
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7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@DandSwedding:  I would just say you’re due in the summer and leave it at that if you are worried. Otherwise, honestly, I would just tell them outright because they will be doing the math anyway. People always do.

Congrats, by the way 🙂

Post # 8
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7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@DandSwedding:  If it helps anyway, I am due April 13, and rather than say I’m due that day, I always say I’m due end of April because babies are always early or late, and I don’t want April 13 to rol laround and have people pester me about why the baby hasn’t come yet, so I have resorted to lying without lying technically.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

I would also just say “late spring” or something similar, maybe try to add a little time so they can’t complain, and if they are observant enough to figure it out when the baby comes you could actually tell the you did’nt know the exact date…

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I honestly think everyone will be so excited about the news that they won’t think of snarky comments. I was a little bit pregnant at my wedding, and when we told family afterwards everyone was so happy (there were a few jokes about doing the math, but it was all in good fun). Don’t overthink this – it’s going to be all hoorays and hugs 🙂

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 1993

Were you living together? If so I am sure she already knows you were sleeping together.  

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