(Closed) How to tell family: YOU CANNOT INVITE ANYONE ELSE!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1716 posts
Bumble bee

Tell them the venue will not allow anyone else to be invited due to fire codes.

who cares if thats not the truth? No fighting about it. =)

Post # 4
339 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Agree with the above. My grandma invited several people I didn’t invite, at the CEREMONY (not just reception). I’m still mad about it! It’s the rudest thing.

Post # 5
1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

You just have to be firm about it and tell them you are at the budget as well as building capacity. Yes it’s a party but not a PARTY.

Post # 6
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m guessing you resolved the issue around fiance’s family inviting 12 times more guests than your parents? Smile

I think, like others have said, just be upfront about with your family – the last thing you want is them thinking they can invite people, so going ahead and inviting them, because then you’ve got all the issues of uninviting people.

Post # 7
12905 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Tell them that once the invitiations were sent out, your guest list was final.  All of the allocated space has now been taken up, and there is no room to invite anyone else.  Tell them you’ll let them know if there are enough declines to warrant sending out a few extra invitations, but you can’t make any guarantees.

Post # 9
1284 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I am in a very similar situation…. except it’s FIs family who are causing the issues! Luckily Fiance is very supportive and has pretty much just told them a straight up no. We asked for a definitive list for a reason…. they were given a very generous number of invites to begin with considering they are not helping financially… and we don’t know these people at all!

I would definitely tell them that your venue maximum is already met and that even if that were not the case you are not prepared to add additional guests financially.

Good luck!

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