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i would go with a lie :) what if you told her that the cake was part of your venue/catering package so you had no choice and keep quite about the cake testing/bakeries ect??
That's not a bad idea. I already decided I wasn't going to mention cakes to her anymore. :)
oh, and maybe if it becomes a big issue she can do the shower cake or grooms cake if thats what your considering
I know exactly how you feel. My bridesmaid has been pressuring me for months to have her sister make our wedding cake but I really want a bakery down the street. Her sister did make my birthday cake and while it was beautiful it was not very um, tasty. At all. I basically told my bridesmaid is that this bakery is famous for their buttercream frosting and it was a special request from my father to have it so that is what I am getting and she pretty much backed off.
Tell her that you've already got someone picked out to do the cake. Then don't talk about it anymore. The MOH should respect your choice if she's really that much of a friend.
Ugh, we have this happening with two family friends who want to do flowers. The reason I'm so nervous is my cousin let one of them do the flowers and they were hideous.. just really ugly. It's nice when people volunteer but sometimes people don't understand you want a pro to do the job!
I would say something like "thanks, but I've got someone else in mind". Or, if her SIL is a guest, you could say "thanks, but I want the guests to enjoy themselves without having to worry about doing something".
Oh, yeah. I know how you feel. My sister offered to make my cake. She even said that she's never made a wedding cake but doing my cake should be a lot of fun! I agreed with her just so I didn't hurt her feelings and then I said jokingly and half serious, that I wanted to see her do some cake tests first and I told her that if I liked what I saw then maybe. I was hoping that it never happened. Luckily, she was too busy to make one. Phew!
I think you should lie, too. Say that you have to go with the caterer's cake.
Or you could tell her that you found out that you really love one of the bakers' designs and you've always wanted to have a cake by them.
Or you could tell her what you want on your cake and describe every single detail that you want. Maybe if it's too hard, she won't do it.
Well, the bakery I'm getting my cake is known to have super moist cake and exotic flavors and fillings. You could say that you've always wanted a cake from that bakery because of all the rave reviews.
Or, this is what I always do, I lie to my parents about the cost of things so they don't freak out. I tell them I got it on sale. You could say that you found a baker that is having a special deal where it's cheaper. Or just lie and say that you thought the cake was going to be $500 and now it really is only $300.
Although, lying about the caterer it is the best idea, I think.
good luck.
I had a similar issue with one of my fiance's family members. One of his aunts offered to do our wedding cake, and I truthfully didn't want to put that responsibility in the hands of a friend or family member because I wanted them to enjoy our wedding - not feel obligated to do things. I was so flattered by her offer, but I didn't want her to have to come down a couple days early and instead of enjoying her time visiting family and staying for the wedding - I didn't want her sacrificing that to be in the kitchen making a cake to feed 150 people.
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Not sure how to handle when this topic comes up with my MOH. My friend's SIL bakes cakes as sort of a side job/hobby. She also has a full time job, goes to school, and has a 2 year old and a newborn. She's 22. She has done (smaller) wedding cakes before and birthday cakes at parties I have been to and they were ok, but it's obvious she's not culinary trained. I was telling my MOH about going to a consult/cake tasting at a bakery today and she keeps suggesting I use her SIL. She thinks I'm crazy for considering cakes that are going to cost $500 or more. I usually just change the subject because I don't want to sound rude but I don't really want to use her. I am friends with the SIL but was not planning on inviting to the wedding. I feel bad just saying "I would rather use a professional".