(Closed) How to tell FSIL her bf is not riding in the limo…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think your FI needs to tackle this one. It’s his sister, so he should be the one to let her know.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I think that if you’re as subtle as you’re planning to be, she will probably not get it… She probably feels “entitled” to more than the rest of your party because she’s the groom’s sibling. A talk with her will be necessary…

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I second MissHelen in that it should be your FI who handles this.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think you just have to come right out and tell her: “nothing personal, but there isn’t enough room, so no one’s partner is riding in the limo, only the bridal party.”  I think your e-mail sounds a bit passive aggressive to be honest… I would just be direct.  If she throws a hissy fit, tell her she doesn’t have to come in the limo.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would just get your FI to tell her straight up!

“There is not enough room in the limo for everyone’s SOs and so “BFs name” will have to meet us at the church!”

Done and done and if she pouts ignore her LOL!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I wouldn’t even worry about this one etiquette-wise; she’s clearly wrong assuming that SOs would be travelling around with the bridal party. Let her know the itinerary for the bridal party that day and just make sure she knows that it is bridal party only.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I had the same issue with a B<. Our party bus rule was that if they weren’t in the wedding party they weren’t in the bus. There wasn’t enough room. Have your FI relay the message to her, and inform her that HUSBANDS aren’t even going to be on there, much less boyfriends!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree it’s his job to handle it, but I’m a little surprised everyone’s bashing her that much.  Every wedding I’ve been in has allowed SO’s in the limo, and mine will as well.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Get your FI to set the bratty sister straight.  I agree with pp that she will most likely not get the email you plan on sending.  

Maybe people are bashing because they have had their share of bratty FSILs..  lol (I know I have!) 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The safest approach on this is simply saying that only the bridal party will fit – no exceptions. That way she doesn’t feel like she’s being singled out, hopefully avoiding a tantrum.

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