Post # 1
We work together for a few years. First I noticed he stared at me a few times but we rarely talked.
Somehow we ended up going out with mutual friends from work.<br />Then he started initiatining conversations with me, but never about work. He gets close to me, sometimes he accidentally touches me.<br />When we talk he gives me intense and long eye contact and doesn’t break it and compliments me and asks a lot of questions. He never ends our talks first.
Still he is a big flirt and hangs out with a lot fo girls so I don’t know if he is just friendly or likes me? How can I tell without asking him?
Post # 2
unlucky: Most guys, if they like you, will eventually ask you out…
Throw some sutble hints his way.. ”run into him” a few times at the coffee machine, etc, smile at him whenever you see him… And if he likes you, he will ask you out.
If he doesn’t ask during a long period of time and you want to be sure, then ask HIM out?
Post # 3
unlucky: 1stly how closely do you work together? Bottom line you can never 100% tell, particularly not if the person is a natural flirt so if you work very closely I would carefully consider whether this is a path you want to go down in respect of the ongoing impact if things did not work out as you hoped.
If all things considered this is something you want to pursue are you adverse to making the 1st move? I’m pretty forthright myself and would plain old ask him if he wanted to go for a drink but thats me and I’ve never been subtle . If you can’t bring yourself to do that I would suggest mirroring his behaviour, match the eye contact and accidental touches and generally make yourself available
Post # 4
Thank you. We don’t work closely. I tested him and saw he mirrors my eye contact too. He asked me if I want to help him on a work project. I told him it’s not my thing and I didn’t know much about his area, but he insisted on it.
It’s not a date. I don’t understand what is he up to with me?