How to tell my boyfriend?? or should i? please read

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I don’t know what happened in the other thread, but I wouldn’t try to control it at all. Rings can be sized if it’s not the right size…or he can ask or figure it out on his own.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee

@truelove25:  I’ve said my ring size casually to my SO 🙂 The holidays are coming up and there’s going to be a lot of engagement ring commercials. Maybe when you’re watching TV, and after one airs, you could tease him and say- ‘so my ring size is ___ in case you were wondering,’ then laugh and grin teasingly 🙂

Are you sure your ring size is a 6 though? Have you thought about going to a jeweler and having them size you professionally? I thought I was a size 6 too until I went to a jeweler, and found out I am a 5.75. 

 

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@truelove25:  Most rings come in size 7 and it’s not uncommon to need to have your ring sized after the proposal.  I would keep quiet about the ring size.  If he wants to know, he’ll figure it out or ask.  But I also think it’s a good idea to bring up your prior convo about getting engaged by your 5th annviersary so you can find out if that is still the plan before getting your heart set on that date a D Day.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m sorry, but I wouldn’t be with someone who couldn’t talk to me openly about OUR future together. Are you kidding me? He’ll propose when HE thinks the time is right? It doesn’t have to be when YOU think it’s right, but it should be when you BOTH think it’s right. Don’t be pushy and annoying, but having a conversation about it and getting a timeline should be easy enough to do. Has the 5 year timeline already passed?

Also – men can figure out ring sizes on their own. They’ve been doing it for centuries now.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

@truelove25:  If he wants to know he’ll figure it out. Maybe he’ll be as “subtle” as my SO was…

He asked to see my right hand ring…analyzes it for a while… looks at the stamps on the inside and ask what they mean (10K = 10 karat gold, 2 = 2 tone gold, G= duh, gold lol) and he’s like “There’s no size in here?” I said no so he tries it on his pinky! LOL I know he was gauging the size….

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@chic_and_fabulous:  +1.  I thought I was a 5.5…..I’m a 4.25.  Make sure before you drop any hints, 3 rezises were a pain in the butt!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@ValerieBee03:  Ha! Mine was ever-so-subtle as well. He certainly thought he was, which was very cute… Almost as if they can barely contain their little “secret”. Makes me smile thinking about it. 

My sister (at his direction) was asked to give me a simple, silver ring as an early birthday present. It was supposed to be too small, so I was forced to tell her my ring size. He didn’t want to have to ask me directly. I obviously caught on, but it was a cute attempt at being sneaky. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

@truelove25:  you seem to be overthinking his actions a little, but to answer your question: no, do not tell him anything. 

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@truelove25:  Men have been figuring out what their girlfriends’ ring sizes are for decades. I wouldn’t worry about it. Leave a ring you like to wear out and he’ll find it or he’ll ask someone. Personally, my SO & I were having dinner with my newly married friend when I admired her ring & she took it off for me to try on and it was a perfect fit. She said “You wear 8.5? You mean all these years I could have been borrowing your cool rings?! Dammit!” lol So the man heard that and now knows my ring size. 

Post # 12
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7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I don’t know why you don’t just talk to him about it. It’s been 5 years… how long is it going to take him to know if he’s ready? Geez. I wouldn’t put up with that!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I told FI my ring size. I said….”for when the time comes, I’m a 4.75 ;)”

I see most women don’t like that, but it worked for us

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

My husband and I were looking at his (then future) wedding ring and he goes, “Oh, they only come in size increments of five.” I was clicking through them and goes, “I’d need to special order one if I wanted one.” He asked why and I told him that my size was a 4 and they didn’t.

I was just rambling casually and told him my ring size. I thought nothing of it.

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