Post # 1
I am going to wait until after my doctors appointment and maybe a few weeks after that once the risk of miscarriage is reduced a bit more before telling our parents we are expecting but im really not sure how they will react.
My Fiances ex was pregnant just before they broke up, he was 21 at Uni had no job no car and no money and his mum went nuts when he told her she was pregnant. Prety much had a panic attack and spent weeks in tears. as it turned out she had been cheating on him and the baby wasnt his but im worried how she will take it this time.
i know its different this time, we are getting married next year, have our own family home, 2 family cars and both have full time jobs and earn a decent wage.
His mum is staring chemo in September i dont want her to react the way she did last time.
My mum is desperate to be a grandparent but my dad wont be very happy that we are having a baby (if all goes well) out of wedlock.
Post # 3
@ChocolateLime: It’s different because the intent to be married is there, and by the way it sounds, wedding details are in the works.
She probably reacted poorly the first time because your FI had not yet gotten his life off the ground; how was he supposed to support a baby? He’s got that all in place now, and I’m sure you have her blessing since you’re becoming his wife.
Post # 4
@ChocolateLime: She might not have liked his ex girlfriend so that could also have been a factor in her disagreement with the ex girlfriend’s pregnancy.
Don’t let it worry you. Most grandparents stress out about everything, then you will find that once the baby is born (or sooner), those feelings generally go out the window as grandparents go all mushy over the new born.
Is this the first grandchild on both sides? I remember when my brother and his wife first announced she was pregnant, the look of sheer panic on my mums face was mad. Once all the fuss had died down she became more and more relaxed about it though. I have no idea why she felt that way as she had often talked about looking forward to being a granny!
As time goes on people will begin to accept this new baby and by the time it’s born they will all have forgotten their anxiety towards it.
Post # 5
I think it’s different. You are engaged and live together. As for your Dad he might surprise you once the baby arrives. I have a friend who was in the same thing and her Dad was upset until he laid eyes on that baby! His mom might be different now that she has an illness and like someone else said she may not have liked that girl.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2012 - Prairie Production- Chicago (loft)
Just an idea- a thought thrown out there…. Ive known people who have done this…..
Since you are getting married anyways next year- have you thought about just making it official sooner and then having the big wedding next year? I know people who have pushed up their date- and ran to the courthouse for baby purposes, or insurance, family situations…..and then had their big party the following year.
Technically no one has to know you have done that if that bothers you- but you and your parents- and then maybe you can relax about having a child out of wedlock to please the parents.
I personally wouldnt worry too much- if you are planning your wedding- just let them know, be excited- becasue you probably are and continue on. It really sounds like you guys have it together -so I really would let your worries go. You have cars, a place to live- and decent jobs… =)
Post # 7
Oh be very careful about doing a “shotgun wedding”! I have that choice too but vetoed it! Lol you will get people saying that phrase a lot to you “So this was a shotgun wedding right?
Post # 8
@Irish-bride: yeah im not feeling that idea. Im not going to go to the regisry office just because im having his baby before the wedding we have already booked. Luckily its a civil ceremony so its not frowned upon having a child before marriage. And its only 5 months or so after baby arrives that we tie the knot anyway.