Post # 1
That I have social anxiety? I’m scared of hurting them by telling them that this has been going on for many years. They will be offended that I didn’t ask for help sooner because they always try to be as helpful as possible which I appreciate but I have never told them because I wanted to solve it myself. I finally realized that I do need help so they have to know how serious this is; I can’t downplay it to spare their feelings. Does anyone have any tips or suggestions?
Post # 3
Just tell them.
“Mom, dad, I have social anxiety. I can’t get this under control on my own. Will you help me?”
That or something like it is all you need to say. If they ask why you haven’t told them about it sooner, just tell the truth. Social anxiety being what it is, however, they’ll probably understand or have a good idea about why you wouldn’t tell them.
This will likely go just fine. I don’t think you have much to worry about. Confide in your parents and ask them for help.
Post # 4
@foreverdreaming: honesty and straight foward. those are going to be your best friends. it’s what i did when i told my mother i have issues w/ food and exercise (i.e. EDNOS). it wasn’t fun but i was necessary. good luck!
Post # 5
Basically what PP said. I never told my father I had depression – granted he probably wouldn’t have done anything about it anyway – but you need to just be upfront with them.
Post # 6
They already know…just not what a serious issue it is for you. Talk to them about it. They’re your #1 fans and they’ll help you through.
Post # 7
My sister just told the family that she has social anxiety. We had absolutely no idea because she was so good at hiding it. My parents are so happy that she told them so she is no longer dealing with this herself. You should tell your parents as soon as you can so they can help you!
Post # 8
@foreverdreaming: I’ve had social anxiety for years – it was crippling and my parents had no idea. Since I was fine around the house they didn’t see the issues I faced every single day.
Unfortunatley I cannot give you advice because I went so long without telling my parents so much due to my social anxiety… my advice would really be to smile and push through it as I did (even though I always hated that advice…). I read this book (link below) written by a woman who grew up with Social Anxiety Disorder and her struggle through it. It may help you as it really did help me a lot.
I’ve come a long way but I still have my moments where I completely freeze up and just can’t interact with people other than a shy smile… FI is the only person who picks up on these moments and can discreetly take me away from the situation without appearing to be rude (many people think I’m rude because of it), I only wish my parents had known growing up so they could help me deal with it.
All I know is from the people (not family) that I did share this with they treated me like a joke. They thought I was blowing my shyness out of proportion while only a few realized that it made perfect sense to explain my behaviour around other people.