(Closed) How to tell people….

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

You could add it to the invitation, maybe something like this;

Please no gifts, your presence is presents enough!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Or; Your presence is the only present desired.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

For presentless events we usually put in “Best Wishes Only Please!”

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I believe technically it is poor etiquette to mention gifts at all on the invite.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wouldn’t go as far as saying it’s poor etiquette like Westwood said, but I do agree that it’d look kinda awkward.

 

However, if I felt that I really wanted to put that on there, I’d write something cute — like what was suggested before. 

 

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think the website is a great place to put things you don’t want on the invitation, but want to tell guests. I’m talking about attire on the website as its not black tie or cocktail, but somewhere in between.

Post # 9
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Honey bee

The website or by word of mouth is good! I’d refrain from putting it on the invite. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’ve seen it on invites, no gifts.  People still brought gifts. I bring even bigger gifts – far be it from anyone to tell me that I don’t do the right thing and give a gift!!!

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yeah, I agree that people will bring gifts if they want regardless.  I tried this with my daughter’s 3rd birthday party, and everyone still brought a gift.

We just had our second wedding.  We made no mention of gifts. Some people gave us some and some didn’t.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

We aren’t didn’t register and we plan on spreading by word of mouth that we need to downsize and we really don’t the space for any gifts. We are also considering donating money if we get it t  good cause but I don’t know because some of my family had mentioned that they think it’s rude.

Post # 13
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Busy bee

Etiquette be damned! We asked specifically that there be no gifts and directed guests to a couple of charities that we’d like to support if they wanted to make a nominal donation  instead.  A second wedding is a time for celebration and being this late in life, there’s really nothing that we need.  We’re putting it on a separate insert with info re: attire expectations (it’s hot, wear something comfortable) and taxi/ responsible choice car service stuff.

I understand that for a more formal event this would be preposterous! Gasp! But I’m not following a whole lot of rules this time around… this day is for us and the people we love. Etiquette? Meh.

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’d suggest maybe adding a line about people donate to a charity in lieu of gifts? That might be a polite way to get around the “no gifts” thing, and helping a good cause!

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Grr sorry for double post, site was acting up!

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