Post # 1
I do love kids, just not all the time. Lol. My roommate’s daughter, 6yrs old, always wants to be in my room. She likes my bed, she like my blanket, my room is comfy, she likes my dog… I don’t mind sometimes that she comes in to play with my dog, but my dog doesn’t really like playing all that much and starts getting fussy.
I go to work at 5:30am, Drive an hour to work, an hour back. I get home around 1pm. I’m usually tired, hungry and dirty. I work with dogs. I just want to come home, take a shower, eat and rest. She usually followers me into my room when I get home and just hangs out. I tell her I’m tired, I’m going to take a nap and you can come back later. But I usually have to tell her like 5 times. She sometimes just opens my door while I’m in bed watching tv and changes the channel to her shows. WTH?! Lol She comes in when I’m sleeping and wakes me up. Ugh!
So I now lock my door and I can hear that she tries to open it. Lol Then leaves because its locked. I don’t mind her playing with my dog or hanging out for a bit, but later on in the day when I’m not so tired. My only thing now is every time I go out of my room, to the kitchen, take my dog outside to use the restroom, whatever reason, she comes running to my room as soon as I open it and lets herself in.
I know the simplest thing is to tell her mom, but I just feel bad and don’t want to sound bitchy. I don’t want to sound mean to the little girl either, but she just starts getting into all my stuff. Like just because its her mom’s house, she has the right to go into my room and do whatever she wants. How would you handle this situation?
Post # 3
@Silly_love: Definitely tell the mom! That doesn’t make you bitchy at all. Just politely explain you need to sleep/rest because of your early start.
Post # 4
@Silly_love: You are renting, I assume? You have a right to your own space! Tell her mom, nicely. Just say that you love the kid and like spending time with her but need time to rest when you get home and need to know that she will only be in there when you are. It’s a perfectly reasonable request and will give mom and opprotunity to teach the kid about boundaries and respecting other people’s things.
Post # 5
I think you are making this into a more difficult situation than it needs to be. Just speak to the Mom. Tell her that you love ___ but you want her to wait to be invited to join you in your room. You are entitled to your privacy and the child is old enough to learn to respect your space.
Post # 6
I would simply say – Yo kid – get ouit of my room! Then talk to the Mom. Get a lock if you have to.
Post # 7
@julies1949: I know I am. I just needed reassurance that I’m not being or going to sound bitchy. Lol I’m just very mellow and try to be patient and wait till she leaves, after me asking her to. i just don’t want to deal with it all the time.
@trueblue14: Yo Kid!… Haha, that made me laugh!
Post # 8
@Silly_love: That’s why I would phrase it in a positive manner- “wait to be invited” rather than “stay out of my room”.
Post # 9
I agree with the previous suggestion of asking her to wait to be invited. But I also thought maybe you could do a craft with her like a sign or a door hanger, when it’s on the door she shouldn’t come in and when it’s not she can knock (or whatever rules you want). Set some boundaries with her and rules. And make sure she knows you enjoy her company but you need your own privacy too.
Post # 10
@MsJ2theZ: I like this. And, don’t forget to actually invite her in! If she knows you often invite her in after dinner say, that will help stop her from walking in at 1PM.
Post # 11
@Silly_love: Talk to the mom! Lol. Kids need to learn boundaries anyway. And respecting someone’s privacy and belongings was certainly something I knew well befoer I was six. 🙂
On your own, if the kid comes into your room again, tell her to go back outside and knock nicely. Tell her you are tired when you come home, and need to sleep, so she should ask her mom when it is ok for her to knock.
Post # 12
@MsJ2theZ: +1 the door hanger sounds like an EXCELLENT idea! nicely done!
Post # 13
@Silly_love: I would tell the mom. It is her job to set boundaries, not yours. If that doesn’t work, then I would tell the little girl, “I love to play with you, but it’s important that you ask first. You wouldn’t like it if I just walked into your room without asking right?” Kids may not like rules, but they respond to them because they are used to having them.
Post # 14
Talk to her mom.
Also, maybe you could make one of those door hangers and use that as a sign that it’s ok to visit.
Post # 15
@Silly_love: talk to the mom. i’m sure she will understand. the mom should be talking to her daughter about privacy and boundaries at this point anyways.
a door hanger is a great idea.
my first thought was to tell the mom that you have a bunch of sex toys and dildos in your room and you don’t want the child to find them. it would save her the conversation of “mom, what’s this?”