How to tell roommate's kid to get out of my room?… Politely :)

posted 3 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Silly_love:  Definitely tell the mom! That doesn’t make you bitchy at all. Just politely explain you need to sleep/rest because of your early start.

Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Silly_love:  You are renting, I assume? You have a right to your own space! Tell her mom, nicely. Just say that you love the kid and like spending time with her but need time to rest when you get home and need to know that she will only be in there when you are. It’s a perfectly reasonable request and will give mom and opprotunity to teach the kid about boundaries and respecting other people’s things. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you are making this into a more difficult situation than it needs to be. Just speak to the Mom. Tell her that you love ___ but you want her to wait to be invited to join you in your room. You are entitled to your privacy and the child is old enough to learn to respect your space.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I would simply say – Yo kid – get ouit of my room! Then talk to the Mom. Get a lock if you have to.

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Silly_love:  That’s why I would phrase it in a positive manner- “wait to be invited” rather than “stay out of my room”.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I agree with the previous suggestion of asking her to wait to be invited. But I also thought maybe you could do a craft with her like a sign or a door hanger, when it’s on the door she shouldn’t come in and when it’s not she can knock (or whatever rules you want). Set some boundaries with her and rules. And make sure she knows you enjoy her company but you need your own privacy too. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MsJ2theZ:  I like this.  And, don’t forget to actually invite her in!  If she knows you often invite her in after dinner say, that will help stop her from walking in at 1PM.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Silly_love:  Talk to the mom! Lol. Kids need to learn boundaries anyway. And respecting someone’s privacy and belongings was certainly something I knew well befoer I was six. 🙂

On your own, if the kid comes into your room again, tell her to go back outside and knock nicely. Tell her you are tired when you come home, and need to sleep, so she should ask her mom when it is ok for her to knock.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MsJ2theZ:  +1 the door hanger sounds like an EXCELLENT idea! nicely done!

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Silly_love:  I would tell the mom. It is her job to set boundaries, not yours. If that doesn’t work, then I would tell the little girl, “I love to play with you, but it’s important that you ask first. You wouldn’t like it if I just walked into your room without asking right?” Kids may not like rules, but they respond to them because they are used to having them.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Talk to her mom.

Also, maybe you could make one of those door hangers and use that as a sign that it’s ok to visit.

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Silly_love:  talk to the mom.  i’m sure she will understand.  the mom should be talking to her daughter about privacy and boundaries at this point anyways.

a door hanger is a great idea.

 

my first thought was to tell the mom that you have a bunch of sex toys and dildos in your room and you don’t want the child to find them.   it would save her the conversation of “mom, what’s this?”

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

double

 

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