- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
This is my first post. I’ve been reading other posts about this topic, but my situation is a little bit different.
I will be a bridesmaid soon for a friend who I have known less than a year. She asked me to be a bridesmaid after knowing me for only a few months. She and I did become good friends rather quickly, but I was surprised to be included so soon. She is obsessed with weddings and has asked me several times since my engagement when I’m going to choose my bridesmaids. I know we talked about who I would ask before I was engaged and I think I may have said something along the lines of, “and probably you since I’m in yours.” I’m regretting that.
I do enjoy her friendship, however there are several other girls that I have known much longer than her that I feel would deserve to be bridesmaids over her. I really only want 4 bridesmaids. Also, the two girls I have already asked and have known since I was 6 don’t like her very much. She tends to stress me out, so I’m not sure that personal attendant would be a good idea either. I know it would be easier to just let her be a BM, but I have a feeling we’re the type of friends who will lose touch once we don’t live in the same area, which could potentially be in two years or so. I don’t want someone in all my pictures unless I know we will stay close no matter where we live.
How do I make her feel included without giving her a meaningless job and hurting her feelings? How do I tell her who my other bridesmaids are going to be? I’m waiting to even discuss anything about bridesmaids until her wedding is over.