Post # 1
I have a very large family 12 uncles and aunts not including there husbands and wifes or there kids now my future hubby has a very small family, we are on a very tight budget and can only afford about 50 people and we want to keep it close and personal well all of my family has been asking when the wedding is when the stds with be sent out and i just simply dont want to hurt anyone is there anyway to tell them there not invited with out being rude?
Post # 3
Is there any way you can do a really causal party after you get back from your honeymoon for your family (and any other uninvited guests) to stop by and congratulate you? Even just some cake and punch? Just a thought. I’m sure your family is just super excited about your engagement and trying to show interest.
Post # 4
I agree with EvaBostonTerrier that it would be nice if you could have a reception afterward to celebrate with your familiies in an inexpensive way.
Post # 5
My FI & I have had the exact same problem. We decided we’re going to do the small wedding for the exact same reasons you just stated – small budget and the fact that we want it to be small and personal. To appease FI’s rather large family, we decided that we will ask his grandmother to host a potluck party at her house where everyone can come celebrate and I can be introduced as his new wife (even though I’ve already met all of them) so no one feels left out.
As for the explanations, people cannot argue with a small budget. Money does not grow on trees and you just have to explain to them that “Although we’d love to have everyone, we cannot afford to have a 100+ person wedding and we didn’t want to play favorites with aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.”
Sorry; I know it’s not a fun situation
Post # 6
When asked, I simply say, “We are having an intimate ceremony and unfortunately are limiting it to our immediate families and our parents siblings.” I do not think this is rude. If people press the issue, then they are the ones being rude. I don’t even get into the budget with them because THEN I worry that someone will say they will pay their way (or FIs father will offer to pay for his favorite cousin, etc…), which will then lead to the fact that we allowed one cousin to come, but not the other 35 . . . .