How to tell which guests ordered which meal

posted 4 months ago in Reception
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Go back to a buffet.  Invitations are out, too bad parents, you can’t go back on your word after it is sent out!

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Cortney Aileen Clevenger :  One would assume that you will be seating the people from the same invitation and rsvp card at the same table. When you do your seating plan you will be able to determine that there are 3 beef and 6 chicken needed at one table. Although some vendors would prefer you had something more specific, it’s easy enough for the waitstaff to bring 3 beef and 6 chicken and ask each guest their preference.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Call everyone and ask them is pretty much your only option.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Cortney Aileen Clevenger :  You can’t take invitations back.  They were printed with buffet, so have a buffet.  It’s too late for them to change their mind…UNLESS they are willing to track down every single one of your guests to get the individual meals.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I would tell your parents that its too late now that invites have gone out.

Do plated service for salad/soup at the beginning of the meal and then buffet for the rest. Would that appease them?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Cortney Aileen Clevenger :  I would send out a mass Facebook and/or e-mail message informing the guests of the plated dinner and to indicate which meal they would prefer.   Call the people who you can’t connect to that way or those who do not respond.  Pain in the @ss?  Yes! However, telling your parents to pretty much f-off is never a good idea…especially in this situation where they are hosting the event.  I’m really suprised that people would suggest for you be so rude to your generous parents.  Makes me think twice about having kids :-/  

Post # 10
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Busy bee

I feel for you. This is tough. But- you don’t really have a good option- other than telling your venue we will have 70 chickens and 54 steaks, but we don’t know where everything goes. I think that’s kind of a recipe for disaster.

 

There’s no magic way to de-code your RSVP’s. All you can do is A) guess B) call everyone and ask or C) go back to the buffet.

Are your parents aware of what a logistical nightmare switching from buffet to plated is? 

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

Cortney Aileen Clevenger :  can you do table side ‘order’ tell your caterer the numbers, then have them go around at the beginning and take ‘orders’ – i’ve been to weddings like this before.

I know our caterer also allowed for a few extras of each in case someone changed their mind last minute

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Buffet is way easier IMO.

Post # 14
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Cortney Aileen Clevenger :  You are beating a dead horse as the old saying goes. There is no other way to know who ordered what, than to ask them.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Cortney Aileen Clevenger :  Since your RSVPs are trickling in, just call each couple/family as you receive their RSVP and explain that there is now a plated meal, and these are your options: A, B, C. Keep a tally, then use escort cards so that waitstaff know where the meals are to be served at each table. It’s not the end of the world, just a hassle for you. Don’t wait until the eleventh hour to do this, but do them as they come in to minimize the stress and time involved.

Good luck!

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