How to tell work I am engaged

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1287 posts
Bumble bee

You don’t have to give work a reason for taking your paid time off.  Just tell them. I don’t see the big deal

Post # 4
1595 posts
Bumble bee

@melizabe:  If you really don’t want the spotlight, I’d just not say anything.  Take time off next summer as planned for a vacation or trip or “the honeymoon we never had.”  When you come back you’ll be married as they already assume you are. 

If someone asks – just say it’s a long complicated story, and rather than correcting anyone’s assumptions I’ve just let people assume I’m married, but my FI will actually get married next summer.

Post # 5
2051 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza

To be honest, I didn’t say anything and it kind of just happened organically. I am a very private person at work and I just didn’t find it necessary information. A few people noticed my ring which was kind of funny because I am so private that many of them didn’t even know I was dating anyone (DH and I had been living together for many years at that point, but I digress). 

When I started taking time off for wedding related activities and eventually my honeymoon, my supervisor would ask where I was going/what I was doing (just making conversation) and I was honest and said, oh that’s for my honeymoon, or I am having a bridal shower, etc. (I had a long distance wedding so I needed to take time off for my shower/some other events.) Word eventually spread and because I didn’t make a big deal about announcing it, no one in my company made a big deal about it either.

I wouldn’t overthink it. I really feel that conversations like that will come up organically.

Post # 6
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

If they already think you’re married, I wouldn’t feel the need to tell them anything. If they ask why you’re suddenly wearing a ring/taking time off, either tell them “for personal reasons,” or just saying that you’re having your wedding reception. Many brides do a reception after getting married at, say, City Hall.

Post # 7
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@melizabe:  just say you’re going on a belated honeymoon ?

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