How to tell you family about elopement

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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3702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

netto614:  We’re doing something similar with just our parents and FI’s brother and sister there. Are you going to have some sort of party after with your family? We were thinking of doing that as a kind of “reception” for the rest of the family. Otherwise, I know people have send out a picture from their elopement as an announcement card. Kind of like a reverse save the date. None of our family knows the plan, not even our parents, we’re suprising them. In your case, I probably wouldn’t tell them until after, as you may be critisized for your plan and they may try to convince you to change the plan and have a more tradional wedding. After the fact, they’ll just have to deal with it.

Post # 4
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3702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

netto614:  Yeah, in that case, I would just make sure you get a great photo from your elopement and send out announcements after you get back. I think it could cause trouble telling people that aren’t invited prior to the wedding, especially if you think they’re going to be hurt that you’re not including them. 

Post # 5
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2017 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

 

netto614:  We are doing something very similar but I’m a very upfront and sometimes confrontational person haha.. So I had no issues ruffling feathers. I’ve been telling everyone our plan and mentioning how expensive stuff gets plus how boring ceremonies are. I also mention that I’m hoping it’s only a 5 minute ceremony so I’d hate for them to sweat to be there on a friday for 5 minutes. I figure if they already know they won’t be invited to the actual ceremony they can get over their tizzy months in advance, leaving the day of and the reception the day after drama free.

Post # 7
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2017 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

netto614:  haha that’s a great update 🙂 I thought it would work out better telling everyone beforehand and I’m glad it did!

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