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    SapphireSun    July 9, 2010   Vancouver, BC

    So, we had a gift opening the day after our wedding, and one of my husband's relatives gave us a bride/groom cake topper. 

    I'm just starting thankyou notes now.  It's the only thing they gave us, so I feel like I have to acknowledge it specifically, but have no idea what to say about it.  It's not like you have many occassions to use a bride/groom cake topper, and it wasn't used by us, so it doesn't really have the sentimental value to be displayed somewhere....

    Do you guys think it's rude to say something like "Thank you for the beautiful cake topper.  We wish you had mentioned it before the reception so we could have displayed it on our cake".  Kind of seems like critisizing the manner in which the gift was given (which I am, but only to you guys) :)

     
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    MsTerrapin    June 19, 2010   Maryland

    I would not include the "I wish you had mentioned it before" piece in your thank you note.  I certainly think it would have made more sense for them to get it to you before the wedding, but if you are writing a thank you note, it should be all positives, I think.  

    Is it possible they thought is was a bride/groom statue instead of a cake topper?  Maybe you can refer to it as a "sculpture" or "statue" and thank them for the lovely piece to help you remember your day.  As for what to do with a random extra cake topper in your house, I have no idea...

     
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    SapphireSun    July 9, 2010   Vancouver, BC

    It specifically says cake topper on the box, and has like a "spike" to be inserted in the cake so it can't stand up by itself, but maybe they did think it was just a statue??

    Part of my concern is that they had intended it to go on our cake, and now we need to explain why it wasn't....

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    Maybe just leave it a little more vague, like, "Thanks for the beautiful cake topper, we only wish we had been able to use it" ?

     
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    Schatzie821    August 21, 2010   New Hampshire, US

    Just write a general thank you note with a pleasant tone.  Something like, when we opened this yesterday we were excited to have something to remember our day by and to use for our 1st year anniversary.

     

    This way they know WHY it wasn't used.  And they can think you will use it when you eat your slice a year from now!

     
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    MaggieGirl    October 16, 2010  

    Hey, now you have an excuse to get an anniversary cake each year!  I'm always looking for excuses for cake (but maybe that's the pre-wedding diet talking). :)

     

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