Post # 1
so, we got married at a courthouse and afterwards my MIL organized a reception at her house for their family and friends. i wrote her a nice heartfelt letter thanking her but i didn’t feel the need to do something else, because (although obviously nice and generous) it was more for them than for us.
now, what I consider our actual reception is coming up. my mom paid for it and I’m getting some details from my pocket; but at some point the caterer said that the sector of the venue we had might be a little small, and we needed an extra 2000 to rent the extra space. so my husband talked to his parents and they said they’d pay for it (they have offered to help if we needed anything else)
they just gave me the check and i want to do something nice for them to thank them, since they really didn’t have to as they weren’t involved in the planning at all and they already hosted an event.
what can I do?
Post # 3
Do they need any help around their house? yardwork? painting? do you cook or bake?
Can you make them a special dinner, plan a picnic or deliver brunch?
Do they have an anniversary coming up? something you could plan for them?
I would find a service to do for them rather than purchase a gift.
To me it seems like you would be spending their money if you just went out and bought them something.
Post # 4
about purchasing a gift that’s what I thought…
i do cook and bake. It’d be weird if I planned something for them but I guess I could make something. I would do muffins or something like that but they’re very health conscious.
they did rave about some bread that I made one time they came to dinner.
maybe i could make them several loafs and freeze them so they can keep them and pop then in the oven whenever they want to?
This is difficult!
Post # 5
A baby? Just kidding
What about a favours book? 10 blank vouchers for no questions asked favours like yardwork or lifts to the airport. That way you can et them decide what the favour would be.
Post # 6
Make dinner for them at your house, place, apartment.
Post # 7
@j_jaye: I would totally do it if they were gonna take on the offer, but I know they never will. It has to be something that they absolutely cannot reject or object.
Post # 8
Commenting to follow. I am in a similar bot.
Post # 9
bump! anybody has more ideas?
Post # 10
Gift cards & vouchers tend to end up in drawers. I would take them out to a nice restaurant & thank them for their help. Perhaps give them a nice bottle of wine or ice wine as an additional way to show gratitude.
For my parents (that will pay for our reception), we’ll get a pair of these candle sticks with a note saying something like “Thanks for bringing so much light & joy to our day!”.