(Closed) how to unvite an invitee

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

You don’t hand out your invites at work and send them via post- that will solve one issue. If she brings it up- “Did you really expect me to invite you to my wedding after the XYZ incident?”

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Don’t talk about your wedding at work. Mail the invites and keep things professional. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

So you haven’t actually invited this “lady” to your wedding yet?? Then I don’t see a problem explaining exactly why you feel the way you do. I’d tell her off.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

lol, I don’t think an explanation is necessary!  What a loser (her, not you!)  I’d say that you had to make cutbacks on the guest list, and unfortunately, she didn’t make the cut.  =o)

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh, and I second mailing the invites – not hand delivering them. Helps to avoid any awkward situations.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Definitely dont hand out your wedding invites at work. Just mail them.  

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

You’re fine unless you sent her a STD and it seems that you didn’t intend to invite her at all. I’d send the invites in the post though in order to avoid any awkward moments.

 

ETA: Your favorite new sentences will be “we are having a small wedding and had to pick and choose for our guest list. Unfortunately, we couldn’t invite everyone.” Also, who the hell does that/this?!?!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Just email the work friends to get their addresses. It really is kind of gauche to talk about parties in front of people who aren’t invited. I wouldn’t do it. 

If she outright asks you about coming just stare at her like she has pen on her face. She will get the drift. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@ticatica:  Don’t worry about that, just don’t invite her and try not to mention your wedding at work. E-mail the other colleagues for their mailing addresses and you can mention in that e-mail that wish to keep the workplace free of wedding talk.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree with all of the other PPs…mail those invites!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@ticatica:  Yikes, this chick sounds like a nightmare! From what I’ve read on the thread so far, it almost sounds like a confrontation from her is unavoidable. Whatever you do, make sure you have a response ready. If she comes at you and you’re not prepared, you might say something you regret.

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