- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
Okay, so I know this sounds like a stupid question, but bear with me. We’re going to have an adult female relative as our ring bearer (she’s on my FI’s side, and long story short, he wants to honor her with something more than a reading but less than making her a bridesmaid). Because of this, we’re going to have a ring bowl instead of a pillow, because I think it gives a much more elegant look for an adult, and she’ll be carrying the real rings.
Now, this is the part I’m trying to figure out. If we were having a traditional little kid ring bearer, we’d have fake rings on the pillow because I’d be too paranoid that they’d get lost. In that case, the kid walks down the aisle, then goes off to sit with mom, fake rings in tow, and when it comes time to put the rings on, the best man pulls the real ones out of his pocket, where they’ve been all along. Since the real rings in our wedding will be in the bowl carried by the ring bearer, what do we do? Does she stand up near us at the altar, and step forward at the ring exchange? I don’t really care for that, because then she’s basically a bridesmaid. And I know it’s a trivial thing, but we already have 5 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen, so aside from starting to look like a crowd is forming at the front, it would make our sides uneven. Does she hand the rings off to the best man when she gets to the front? I guess that would work, but then it doesn’t seem like she’s redundant because why not just have the best man carry them from the get go? Does she sit down, then stand back up and bring the rings forward when they’re needed? I think that’s what I’m leaning towards, but will it look odd to have her walking back and forth?
What do you think, ladies? Have any of you seen a ring bowl used or used one yourself? How did they handle it?