Post # 1
Ok! So we have the wedding on Saturday, the Rehearsal Dinner on Friday that will be paid for by my FMIL and all out of town guests will be invited to, and the Sunday Brunch at our home that my fiance and I will be hosting and all of the out of town guests will also be invited to. Because our friends and family live across the world, most of them are making a vacation out of it and will be coming in late Wednesday or early Thursday. We wanted to invite anyone in town to dinner on Thursday to our favorite Italian restaurant. They do not take reservations except for groups with a food/drink minimum. We cannot pay for this dinner, we just wanted to give everyone the option of joining us to hang out. We will need to give the restaurant a head count to base the minimum on.
How do I word this? I wanted to have an enclosure with the invitation about all the extra events but I don’t know how to go about telling people that Thursday night is a No Host (I really would like to avoid using the phrase “No Host Dinner”)
Has anyone else dealt with this!?
Post # 3
@victoriapaige: how about just sending an email to say that you and your family are going out for supper Thursday before the wedding & if anyone wants to come you would love to see them…put also that, for instance,: meals range from $15-$40 and you will need to reserve a table so would need to know ahead of time etc…I think if you make it an informal light email then that would work….if you put in on an invitation then they might think you should foot the bill……
Post # 4
maybe just something very simple in the invites that refer to the wedding website where you can be less formal.
we havent sent out STDs yet, but I’ve been working on the website and made a page of our favorite places so that out of towners can have recommendations if they come early. Maybe you can have a similar page, but it can be worded more specifically to say “This is where the wedding party will be on Thursday, send me an email if you are interested in joining us”.
Or just email a few individuals that you feel would most like to join you and give the restaurant a low minimum estimate.
Post # 5
Logistically wise, trying to get a bunch of people to individually pay for their meals can turn into a mathematical nightmare. Can you arrange a preset menu with the restaurant with 3-4 appetizers/mains/desserts for the people to choose from? Then send out an email stating that the wedding party will be enjoying some pre-wedding festivies at XYZ Italian place. Come hang out with them and for $?? dollars you can get a lovely 3 course meal to unwind and dust off the jetlag. If the price and menu was posted, then people can prepare and bring cash.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2012 - W Hotel Silicon Valley
I agree with previous posters, a more casual e-mail or reference to the wedding website would work!
Post # 7
For my 30th birthday, I wanted to have dinner with a few friends at my favourite restaurant. However, we could not afford to foot the bill for everyone. We decided we would pay for large salads for the tables, and the wine. Everything else was up to each person or couple. We phrased it more or less like this:
“Here is the restaurant’s website. (Link), to give you an idea of menu options and prices. Everything here is awesome, and there is something for everyone’s tastebuds and budgets. Drinks and salads on us!”
It worked really well. We pre-arranged what we paid for with the restaurant, so there was no confusion. If you aren’t covering anything, just leave off the last part above.