(Closed) How to word dress code?

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Summer dresswear? I think in the end people will dress as they dress.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You can’t tell adults how to dress, unless you’re truly having the most formal of events, and then you can request black tie. But this means you’re having multicourse plated meal, live band, hosted open, top shelf bar, etc. That doesn’t seem to be the case here.

You need to let your invitations set the tone, so that means relatively formal invitations. You can post pictures of the venue on your website, demonstrating that it’s nice. You can spread the word to parents to tell guests to be on the dressier side if they ask. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I perosnally don’t think you should dictate a dress code at all.  But perhaps “business casual”?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Yeah – you can only suggest, not control, what people wear to your wedding, and no matter what you say, I’m sure some people will, uh, interpret it creatively and wear what they want. All you can do is try your best and at the end of the day, you probably won’t care too much about guests’ clothes because you’ll be married to your FI and that’s what really matters.

Maybe “semi-formal attire”?

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@MidwestBride2012:  I agree, mostly. I think black tie optional is fine to indicate as well, but black tie optional also entails a full dinner.

OP, Considering the kind of reception you are having, you must rely on the formality of the invititation to indicate dress. You can also put a FAQ What should I wear? on your website with a description of appropriate attire.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@BetterSherm:  Usually dress code is only included for formal events.  Most wedding invites don’t include a dress code.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@takemyhand:  I like that….Summer Dresswear.  🙂

OP: we didn’t have a dress code, but as we were having a cocktail reception, we did put something on our website (I’m assuming that’s where you’re going to put this) like “What to wear to a cocktail party” because we got a lot of questsions.  I will tell you that the people we (urmm….I) expected to wear inappropriate clothing, did.  lol  So, as long as you know that while it may seem like common sense to you (and me) that wearing a jean khaki top and pants to an evening cocktail reception during the holiday season is poor form, others will not get it.

 

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@KCKnd2:  Unfortunately, “semi-formal” is one of those terms that people interpret in a wide variety of ways.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

@mrsSonthebeach:  Yes, but people interpret basically every dress code term in a variety of ways, so that’s a little bit irrelevant. I suggested semi-formal because that (to me, at least) rules out both “White House Ball” and “going to the grocery store,” as the OP requested. “Snooki,” on the other hand, is a wild card – not quite sure what to do about that. Wink “Semi-formal” was my attempt.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I agree with PPs that I would be very careful about dictating dress code. These are adults. They can dress themselves. And they are their own person first and guests at your wedding second. Them being comfortable is more important than them looking good as a group for you. And there will always be girls with short skirts and low cut tops. No getting around it. So if you decide to say anything say it as a suggestion, not as a demand. And I would limit it to the website, not the invitation.

That being said, I’m trying to get across to my guests that they don’t need to wear formal wear since it will be outside and I want them comfortable. So I’m planning to use something like this on our website:

Maybe you could have something like that.

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@KCKnd2:  I disagree. Black Tie and Black Tie Optional have definitions that you can look up and that are consistent. Semi-formal does not.

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