Post # 1
I’m having an issue with how to word this. I get a bit uncomfortable when talking about gifts and the registry.
I sent out our save the dates a few months ago for our July 2nd wedding. The STDs included a link to our website. A page on our website included a link to our registries at Macys and BB&B.
I received an email from an old friend asking where I was registered. He said he wasn’t sure if he could make the wedding, but wanted to send FI & I a gift. I was going to respond via email with some conversation and then include . . .
We are just about ready to send the wedding invitations. I’ll likely send them in a few weeks. We’d love to see you on July 2nd if you can make it!
We are registered at Bed, Bath, and Beyond and Macy’s. We are under the names XX and XXX.
I’d like to include a sentance that states – but you really don’t have to get us anything. That just seems dumb because, well, we did register. I guess the whole register thing feels odd – here is my list of wants.
Should I reword the above? Include some language on how we really aren’t expecting gifts? I’m probably way overthinking this.
Post # 3
You’re overthinking it. He wants to give you a gift, otherwise he wouldn’t bother asking where you’re registered.
I don’t think you need to mention anything about when you’re sending the invitations. Something like:
You’re so sweet! I really hope you can make it to the wedding. If not, we really need to make plans to meet up!
We’re registered at xy, xx.
(If you haven’t spoken/caught up in a while, add some question about how he is…)
Basically, respond with an answer and add whatever you’d normally write to him in an email. Easy!
Post # 4
thanks. my brain is turning to wedding mush.
Post # 5
I usually responded to those kinds of requests with something like, “since you asked, we are registered at …”
Post # 6
I thought about saying that… to look nice. But then I was like, no I’m not saying that. As much as we don’t think people HAVE to give us gifts, we don’t want to tell people not to give us gifts. We really do need things for our new apartment! So unless you really mean it, I wouldn’t say anything. It sounds like he really wants to get you something, so I would just go along with it.