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The only issue is it will appear that they are divorced if you write it seperately. For example Mr. Brad Pitt and Mrs. Angelina Pitt blah blah blah instead of Mr. and Mrs. Brad Pitt (which say they are a unit. Is there anyway you can say Brad and Angelina Pitt and remove the Mr. and Mrs? I don't know if my way is better, it's just different.
If you're definitely putting both parents' names I would go with the first option - they each get their own title that way!
Write their first names, with out a title. John and Jane Doe.
Mr. John Doe and Mrs. Jane Doe implies they are divorced. I don't think Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Doe is technically correct (although its your wedding, so you can do whatever you want).
I second (or third) that writing it as "Mr. John Doe and Mrs. Jane Doe" implies that they are divorced. That was how we used it since the mister's parents are divorced, his dad re-married, but his mom is still single (and still shares the same last name as his dad).
I know where you're coming from, the femminist in me didn't want to single out the women either, but in the end I had to suck it up and be "traditional". It was easier that way.
She's not offering Mr. John Doe and Mrs. Jane Doe as an option. It's Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Doe.
I guess I'll choose the first one. It still looks cohesive. The issue I have with the second one is, staring at me, right in the middle of the sentence is "Mrs. John". The sentence doesn't feel that weird said out loud, but to see "Mrs." land right before "John" looks weird on paper.
What would she think of not using the titles and just going with "John and Jane Doe"? Personally, I would not like to be referred to as Mr. and Mrs. Husband's Name, even in the most formal situation. If it were me, I'd be fine with my name by itself without the Mrs, in fact, I'd prefer that to the "traditional" wording.
FWIW, We paid for our wedding ourselves, and didn't have to deal with this issue on the invitations, but I addressed envelopes to "Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Doe".
I voted for Mr and Mrs John and Jane Doe. That one seems to flow the best for me. Isn't that how the emcee usually introduces the married couple into the reception? The Mr John and Mrs Jane Doe is just not rubbing me the right way because without the last name attached to Mr John, is sounds very southern (I love southerners, the wording is just not for me). But if you are in the south maybe this would work for you.
Nope definitely no Mr John Doe and Mrs Jane Doe for me :)
@Tanya123 - aah now you've pointed that out it sticks out for me too!
I'm not worried about what's technically correct or traditional (if a guest gets their knickers in a twist they need to get a life IMO! But I can't think of anyone who would.).
@Jessie516 - that's exactly what I told fi last night - I NEVER want to see our names as Mr and Mrs His Names. And I don't want to do it to his mother either (unless she wanted it). HE is the only one who was worried about it being traditional to write it that way lol.
Hmm, without titles - then I would need to do everyone without titles too. Wonder if my parents would mind? (Bet my Dad would haha, these guys and their 'properness'!). That could def. be an option too (might go alter the poll :D).
@Jacqi - we are extremely Southern, more Southern than anyone who lives in the US South in fact! We are in New Zealand - 'down under' ;)
I agree with Tanya123 on the wording. I originally was against using Mr. & Mrs. John Doe and simply labeled mine all without Mr. & Mrs. then FMIL printed the labels and changed all to Mr. & Mrs. John Doe...because it is traditional...arrrgg Love her, but to me it just seemed weird. Most of the people I would never call Mr. or Mrs. whomever. It was also weird to address under the husbands name when I was friends with the wife. So...upon the suggestion of FMIL I used Mr & Mrs. John Doe for all HER relatives & friends we invited and my older (grandparents) family members and just used either no Mr or Mrs or did them each separate like Tanya123 suggested with their own title.
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I guess this is normally the easiest situation! Fi's parents are married, but the feminist in me REFUSES to write Mr and Mrs John Doe on the invites.
I emailed his mum to check what wording she wanted, and she does want her name on there, but now I've got to decide how.
Should I write it as Mr John and Mrs Jane Doe, or Mr and Mrs John and Jane Doe? Or something else?