Post # 1
You have all proven to offer a varied palette of advice and tips and I’m so happy for that! So, I’m coming to you in case any of you have been in this situation and/or know what to do about it.
I’m about to choose the wording for our invitations. I’ve read the Elizabeth Post book of etiquette for this topic, and tried to figure this out but haven’t gotten far.
My parents didn’t agree with me dating the young man who became my fiance after 9 months of dating, and who will be marrying me (formally, as we had a civil ceremony last May! 2 months ago now! woohoo!) this October. They actually decided to make a HUGE fiasco and ordeal out of EVERYTHING having to do with me, and with him, and with us and it’s WAY too much and WAY too painful to share here.
BUT to make a long story short, I don’t know that I should be wording our invitations in the traditinonal sense, where the parents of the bride are listed as asking people to celebrate their giving of their daughter in marriage. I spoke with my fiance about this, and while his parents have contributed $3K to our wedding, which is awesome (we need it, we’re paying for EVERY other bit!), he agrees that it probably is best for us to somehow word it so that WE are inviting everyone to come celebrate our union.
I personally would love something somewhat “formal” and almost traditional, but I realize since my parents basically cut me off, have never said anything let alone anything good about our engagement, etc. that makes traditional pretty near impossible.
Any advice? Is there a book, website, or something you can put here as an example of some options for how to word our invitation sweetly but maturely and truthfully?
Thanks so much! I need to find this out today, trying to get them all to be printed tonight with the wording and stuffed into envelopes this weekend!
Post # 3
Something borrowed and something blue
a silver sixpence in her shoe
some things are old, some things are new
someone to care and share your life
the dream of every husband and wife
request the honor of your presence
as we exchange marriage vows
of love and devotion
We paid for our own wedding, but my MIL did the rehearsal dinner and my parents gifted us the honeymoon last minute.
Post # 4
we’re wording ours like this:
the pleasure of your company is requested at the marriage ceremony of
bride and groom
on the xx day of xxxx two thousand eleven
(address of venue)
reception to follow
we may or may not put our parents names in it–if we do, it will be
daughter of mom & dad
son of mom & dad
i’m paying for the wedding. my parents have offered money, but i have yet to accept (and probably won’t ever)
Post # 5
How abotu the following:
“You are cordially invited to celebrate the wedding of Groom and Bride.”
“ Groom and Bride ask that you share the celebration of love and happiness at their wedding…”
got those ideas from this article: http://www.projectwedding.com/wedding-ideas/invitations-what-will-you-say
Post # 6
I really think that you should word it as you and your husband inviting the guests to the wedding. Using the words “along with their parents” wouldn’t really be appropriate in your case.
Post # 7
@ejs4y8: Love your wording!
Post # 8
because your love and support
has helped them become who they are
invite you to celebrate with them
as they join their hands and hearts
together in marriage
Reception to follow
please visit our website for more information
Post # 9
Thanks to all of you who posted fine, detailed examples and also tips/advice. If anyone has anything more to offer, like I said, my man and I are working on the wording for our invitations tonight!! I would LOVE something creative and cute, yet with a certain level of semi-formality. The invitations are elegant but not overdone, and not “cutesy.”
Post # 10
Well, we went plain and blunt. More or less, lol. The wording is rather blunt but the artwork is anything but plain! (I have sooo gotta upload pics tonight…)
Here’s what we did for the announcement/invite, since we’re paying for everything and it’s more a party than a traditional-type (or even semi-traditional) wedding:
On front of card: You’re Invited
On back of card:
Announcing the Marraige of
(Bride & Groom)
and are inviting you to join us in the celebration.
Please reply by: (date)
straightforward, slightly formal and not cutsy.
hope this helps!!!!