how to word invitation when one of couple can't attend

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yes.  Still address it to both.  

Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Astra:  I would still address the invitation to both of them. I think it would be insensitive not to. You can always include a lovely handwritten note saying that you know that ___ won’t be able to attend but you wanted __ to know that their presence was wanted and would be missed.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Astra:  I think you should address the invite to both, to let the person that can’t attend know that you would like to include them even if they can’t come. It almost seems ruder to me to leave them off the invitation. You could always include a short handwritten note if you want saying something to the effect of ‘hey, we know you can’t make it but we wanted you to know we were thinking of you’ . . .  

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