Post # 1
I’ve heard many conflicting opinions on this topic and wanted to get some more insight. On typical invites i know it says both sets of parents usually, but many people are telling me if his parents aren’t helping…AT ALL, they don’t need to be included on the invite? My Dad’s opinion is that since he is the one hosting it his name should be on it, which i agree, i just dont want to upset people and start off on the wrong foot.
i need help!!! thanks bees 🙂
Post # 3
We used “Together with our families” to avoid all politics of who’s paying, divorced parents, etc. We just told our families rather than giving them an option, but I think they all understood the reasoning.
Post # 4
I have yet to see an invitation where the groom’s family was listed on the invite. All my friends have had very traditional weddings (bride’s family pays) and it’s always said, “Mr. and mrs. so and so…blah blah blah….the wedding of their daughter, ABC, to 123” and whatnot.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2011 - Trinity Lutheran Church & Idlewild Country Club
We’re in the same situation. Ours says something like “Mr & Mrs. Family are honored to request your presence at the wedding of their daughter Madison to Fiance on Saturday May . . .”
So his parents aren’t listed at all. They are generously offering to pay for our rehearsal dinner so I might their names on our rehearsal invites.
Post # 6
I think this would fall into the category of traditional wording, as traditionally the bride’s parents paid for the wedding.
In our case, my parents are paying, but we did acknowledge The Guy’s parents as well with the following wording (but also made it clear that they weren’t hosting):
Bride’s stepdad and mum
Bride’s dad and stepmum
request the honour of your presence
at the joyful wedding of their daughter
son of Groom’s dad and mum……
You can find many more options here: http://www.invitationconsultants.com/samplewording.aspx?p_subcategory=3
Post # 7
great ideas guys! thank you so much!!
Post # 8
I’d go with the traditional wording. I’ve seen some where it says Brides Parents invit you to the marriage of their daughter, PreciousLaur19 to Groom, son of Groom’s parents.
That way they are on there, but I doubt anyone will think they are paying for the wedding. If they are doing the traditional thing and hosting the Rehersal dinner, then those invitations would list their names as the hosts.
My situation is the opposite where his family is helping out some and mine’s helping none. Luckily his parents are super laid back, so we’re doing, Together with our families we invit you blah blah blah.
Post # 9
I like the “son of” option if you feel their names should be on it but want to make it clear that they are not paying.
Post # 10
I was going to put together with our families but since my mom and step dad (who is walking me down the aisle and has been my father since I was very young) are the only ones who are contributing to our weddin their names were the only one on the invitation.
Post # 11
If your dad is hosting completely (as in, you and your FI are not contributing at all), you can always say:
Bride’s parents request the honor of your presence
as they celebrate the marriage of their daughter
If you and your FI are also helping with the costs, just do:
Bride and groom’s name
along with their parents
request the honor of your presence as they celebrate their marriage …
Post # 12
Whoever is paying is the host. So that person should be inviting the guest.
My parents paid for everything, so our invitations read “Mr & Mrs. Moderndaisys parents invite you to witness the marriage of their daughter Moderndaisy to Mr. Moderndaisy, Son of Mr. Moderndaisy’s parents”
Post # 13
My mom and her husband are paying the most, but my Dad also contributed some so it was extra complicated.
Mine read Mr. and Mrs. blank and blank (different last name from mine)
Mr. blank blank.
request the honor of presence at the marriage of
Sarah and Michael
(no grooms parents listed)