How to word invite?

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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42538 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MistySoda:  Rather than choose who gets their name on the invitations because they are contributing to the wedding, why not use “Together with their parents…”

The last thing I wanted to do at the beginning of my marriage was to risk appearing to target or isolate the one parent who wasn’t contributing.

There is always a gracious alternative.

Post # 5
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42538 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MistySoda:  The problem with that is by crediting your parents and his Dad, you are making conscious decision to single out his Mom.

Perhaps this will help:

Here’s the funny thing about people’s names on the invitations — everyone thinks it signifies who’s paying for the wedding, and a lot of the time, the parents listed are paying — but the larger meaning is that they are hosting the reception. “Hosting” is a word with flexible meaning. Parents can be official hosts — they planned the party, they invited the guests, they paid — or honorary hosts. Maybe the couple paid for their own wedding, but still want to honor the bride’s parents and the groom’s parents on the invitation. Technically, all four parents can be listed on an invitation without putting a penny toward the wedding. (This usually isn’t the case, of course.)

It’s more diplomatic to list all four parents, even if the bride’s parents are putting more money into the wedding. If nothing else, it’s a wonderful way to reach out to your new in-laws. And these days the bride’s parents aren’t really giving her away anymore — why should the groom’s parents get shafted on the invites?


Post # 7
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109 posts
Blushing bee

@MistySoda:

your parents names

along with FI parents names

invite you to the wedding of there children

Date

Time

Place

A special thank you to:

Your parents

and

FI Dad

For making this day even more special?

 

Or else just make her a special invite with her name on it, and send everyone else a different one? Unless you think she would see the others? Its hard to please both of them. What a pickle.

 

 

 

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