Post # 1
OKay I am not looking for a debate about open and cash bar, but I need advice about how to word this.
We are doing a hosted bar from 5-6 and then the rest of the evening is a cash bar. (This is the norm in our group of family and friends). Our venue does not let patrons purchase drinks using credit or check – it must be cash. I did put a note on the website, but should I also include a note in the welcome letter for the OOT bags? We have about 50 groups staying at the hotel – that is a good dent in the guests who will be attending. If I should include one, how should I word it?
“A hosted cocktail bar will immediately follow the ceremony. Alcoholic beverages will be available for purchase for the rest of the evening for cash only. No credit cards are accepted.”
Does that work?
Post # 3
The information should only be spread via word of mouth, as anything else is improper. However you can share that info (as you have it worded) verbally to anyone who asks, but that is the extent of what you can do.
Post # 4
I think putting a note in the welcome bags is a great idea! I think your wording is fine :-).
Post # 5
@Ember78: I disagree. If a large percentage of people were to not hear about the cash bar via word of mouth, they would be left without access to drinks, which I think would be much more irksome.
The idea that people have to prance around the truth and assume people will magically find out the situation is insane to me. This is 2011, not 1918.
Post # 6
Agree with crayfish. Who decides what is ‘improper’?
As a guest I’d appreciate the heads up to bring some cash.
Post # 7
I think your wording is fine and a note in the welcome bag is ok too. I would appreciate the heads up and info in my OOT bag – definitely better than putting it on the invite.
Post # 8
I think this sounds good, but I would maybe change it to “A hosted cocktail hour will immediately follow the ceremony.” That way you’ll be letting them know how long it will last at the same time.
Post # 9
I think a note in the OOT bag is perfect. “cocktail hour” is better too as tinylittlebird suggested.
Post # 10
I had a cash bar. We let everyone know by word of mouth. However, we had a “small wedding” 60 guests. I recommend word of mouth 🙂 good luck!
Oh, I just reread it. I think putting this in the welcome bag is a great idea! Sorry….i thought you meant the invitation!
Post # 11
I think the wording works.
Post # 12
wonderful! i wish i had more oot guests so i could do something like this. however, all weddings within the family have been cash bar, and it is the norm around here so word of mouth should hopefully work for us. def. agree with the cocktail HOUR part, just to clarift the extent of it
Post # 13
I think the wording is fine. As a guest I would defintely appreciate it. n No reason to rely on the word being spread, sorry that game of telephone will probably end up with all kind of mixed messages.
Post # 14
you might want to clarify if there’s an ATM on site or if the bar accepts debit.
other than that, its more than fine.
ETA: Uh, you had your wedding this weekend. Never mind! 🙂
Post # 15
@bebefly: hahah! lets hope it worked out well
Post # 16
I do not think you should mention ANYTHING about hosted bar and cash afterwards. That sounds double cheap.
IMO say: “reception with cash bar to follow” you don’t need to say anything else. CASH speaks for itself.