How to write a thank you for a gift that hasn't been delivered???

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
Member
2527 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

brianne.lynn1:  thank you for the thoughtful _________. We can’t wait to try it out when it gets here!

That way she has an opportunity to check on the shipping situation if need be.

Post # 4
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7206 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

brianne.lynn1:  Generally I take the stance of no thank you note until the gift is received.

If you’re concerned about delivery gone wrong, I suggest you call her and say something along the lines of, “My gift hasn’t arrived. If you’ve had to delay sending it that’s fine, but I’m just letting you know in case the delivery has gone wrong“. Then when it’s all sorted, you can send the thank you card.

Post # 5
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1769 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

brianne.lynn1:  Contact the person please.  This happened to me once as the gift-giver and I was SO embarrassed and so so glad the person contacted me.  It turned out there was one more extra confirmation page to confirm my order and I didn’t realize it, so the gift was never actually ordered.  If she’d just sent a thank you or sent a thank you saying they hadn’t received it yet, I would’ve just thought delivery was slow and never realized.  Thank goodness she contacted me, so I was able to figure it out and make sure the present was actually ordered and sent.

so just contact the person to let them know.  that’s not rude at all.  Now, I have to do this myself because a guest checked a few items off our universal registry that we haven’t received (and it’s been maybe 2 months), so I want to just run it by her.  Nobody would be offended that you contact them abt a gift they said they were giving you but didn’t receive.  They’d only be embarrassed if you didn’t.  

otherwise- for our wedding, I can see when something’s purchased, so I’ve been able to contact the store directly for a few items that were ordered maybe 6 wks ago and still didn’t show up.  Turned out that they had never been signed for, so the store is re-shipping them to me without ever even bothering the gift-giver.  But I am sending that gift-giver their thank you a bit later than I thought I woud- but if they check their delivery info, it’ll show them why.  That’s a good way to go too if this was technically bought off of your registry.

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