How to write invitations for Catholic Mass with info

posted 3 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
1504 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Dallas2014:  Ok, well first I wouldn’t put it directly on the invitation. I would put it on a seperate card that goes inside the invitation. And you could say something like this.




Out of respect for the sacred nature of the wedding mass and church, please cover bare shoulders and back while inside. Thank you!


Post # 4
3677 posts
Sugar bee

Our wording was something along the lines of:

We joyously request

the honor of your presence

and your participation in the sacrifice

of the Nuptial Mass uniting …

names, details, etc.

Post # 5
7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I put most of this information on our website, including a request for “cocktail dress”, in the formal sense of the term.

Post # 6
298 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I didn’t add any additional information to my invitations about it being a mass. I figure when they see it’s at a catholic church there is a 50/50 chance it will be a full mass. Mine were worded….  Bride & Groom request the honor of your presence as they exchange marriage vows August 17, 2013 St. Joseph’s Catholic Church.

You can also put a note in your programs about communion etiquette and prepare them for the length.

Post # 7
388 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would not put a dress code in the inviation. I’d provide a variety of shawls at the church, so when guests enter, they can borrow one to cover their shoulders.

Post # 8
6948 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Dallas2014:  Usually people just say “blah and blah request the honor of your presense at the nuptual mass…” It’s clear that you’re getting married at a NUPTUAL mass, so you don’t need to “holy sacrement of matrimony” unless you want to.

As for the dress code, I would put it on the wedding website and spread the news word of mouth. If, however, that isn’t possible, I would add an insert that said something like:

“The bride and groom request your help in preserving the sacred nature of the sanctuary by asking all guests to dress modestly while in the church. Please cover bare shoulders and backs. Men are requested to remove hats upon entering the building. Thank you!”

Post # 9
4511 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Make sure you spell it correctly. “Nuptial Mass”

Post # 10
476 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

If you’re concerned that people will be wearing strapless dresses, I’d add an insert to the invitation, add the note to the website and spread the news by word of mouth. I would not offer wraps at the church- it’s just one more thing for you to collect, then you’ve got to make sure people see the sign or the wraps and get the hint.


Post # 11
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I found this on a website (can’t remember which one!) and will be using it/a variation of it for our mass:

Mr. and Mrs. John Alex Smith
request the honour of your presence
at the Nuptual Mass uniting their daughter
Jennifer Ann
Mr. Nick Allen Ames
In the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony
Saturday, the twenty-second of August
Two thousand and fifteen
at nine o’clock in the morning
Saint Matthew’s Roman Catholic Church
New York, New York


Except I have to do a little rewording because we are paying for the wedding ourselves with a little financial support from each set of parents

Post # 12
813 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I really like @mmr66‘s wording. Ours was similar. Just make sure you spell it “nuptial” not “nuptual!”

As for the dress code, I really would not put dress code info in the invitation. On your wedding website maybe, but not the invitation. Honestly, no one is going to turn people away at the door if they show up with their shoulders uncovered. It would be nice to try and spread the word, but don’t worry about it too much. 

Post # 13
722 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@bluebonnet:  lmao! I copied that from the website into my “notes” on my computer, nev proofread it! Haha

Post # 14
3249 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Dallas2014:  1st, a liturgy is only about 15 minutes shorter than a mass, so “at such and such Catholic Church” on the invitation should be enough for guests to know it’s going to be long.  I’d put more info on a wedding website.

For the dress code, I’d like to think people should know that, by virtue of the fact that it’s in a church.  But, again, I think that information is better suited to the wedding website than the invitation.  Is the wedding coordinator really going to be standing at the door turning people away?  You can be expected to ensure your wedding party is dressed according to the dress code, but you really can’t control what people wear.  Even if you tell them what’s appropriate, you can’t make them wear it.  It is respectful to follow your church’s guidelines, but at the same time, I’m sure it wouldn’t take too long to find a scriptural reference to trump the coordinator’s desire to bar people from the church.  Anyone who indidcates that someone isn’t welcome in a church kind of has their priorities screwed up, if you ask me.  Don’t get me wrong – I’ll be pissed off if someone shows up to my wedding in jeans, or a tube top, but I won’t turn them away from the church or the reception.

Post # 16
3084 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Duncan:  not all Catholic Churches require bare shoulders though. Plenty of girls get married in strapless dresses or bridesmaids have strapless dresses. 

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