How to write this thank you note?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I would just say something along the lines of “Thank you so much for the cute gift! It was so sweet of you to send something even though you didn’t attend the shower!”

They know what they gave you and what it’s for and its why they didn’t attend… so make it more about that they didn’t need to send a gift for something they weren’t attending rather than what it was/what it will be for. You can thank them without making them think of you sexing it up

 

Post # 3
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1131 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

LeonardLady:  I think it could be kind of funny to write the thank you just as you did. I mean, if these women were really so prudish that they would be shocked and take offense, they probably wouldn’t have bought you lingerie.

Post # 4
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818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

ohnatto:  They don’t seem prudish or easily offended.. they got gifts but just weren’t comfortable enough to attend and obviously didn’t want to have it rubbed in their face all night that their daughter and son are gonna be doing the nasty. Therefore, I wouldn’t want to make any reference to it in the thank you card either. 

Post # 5
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395 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

My mom got me lingerie. In my thank you note I thanked her for the beautiful gift. I think I then said I can’t wait to celebrate my day with her There. I did not say I can’t wait to wear or use them…that’s too awkward for me!

Post # 6
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2363 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

LeonardLady: I’m confused why they thought your bridal shower would be awkward?

I’d just write “Thank you for your gift! I really appreciate you thinking of me!” Maybe elaborate on that a bit, but it’s totally fine to be vague in this circumstance. I certainly don’t think it’s “prudish” to not include that you’re going to be wearing them for your FI to rip off or whatever…that’s just inappropriate and not something I’d say to anyone. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

carolinabelle:  I’m assuming it was a lingerie shower? I can’t lie, I would find my mom and FMIL at a lingerie shower pretty awkward.

Post # 10
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5012 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

LeonardLady:  Dear Mom, Thank you so much for the wonderful gift for my bridal shower. I have had such a great time planning my wedding with you. Thank you for everything you have done. I cannot wait to spend my wedding day with you! Love, LeonardLady

Post # 11
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686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

LeonardLady:  Both my mom and my (F)MIL, and two of his sisters attended my lingerie shower! They really wanted to–they drove 10 hours to visit for the weekend and attend. I was a little nervous about it, but I knew my sister planned to keep the shower low-key so I knew there wouldn’t be anything SUPER awkward except opening gifts. I was surprised to see that my MIL got me one of the more racier pieces of lingerie! Everyone laughed (including her) and it made me feel good that she has a sense of humor. 

Of course I thanked her for coming to the shower (which you can’t), but the rest of the note just said how much I appreciated her gift and her thinking of me and that I was happy to have her support as I started my new life with her son. 

Post # 12
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761 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

whitemochi622:  This. Just thank them for the “beautiful gift”, mention how it was “very generous” of them, and then focus on what they mean to you — how nice it was that they thought of you, how grateful you are to have them in your lives, how much you’re looking forward to being family now (for FMIL), etc. 

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