Post # 1
DH and I plan to start trying late next year. We want to be married for at least year and we only got married 3 months ago. And we also plan to do one more Eurotrip for our 1 year anniversary and move into a 2 bedroom apartment. Thats the plan.
I am worried because quite a few people have told me that it gets harder to conceive as you get older. I will be 29 next month. By the time I stsrt TTC I will be turning 30.
I am a person that tends to worry far in advance. My worst fear is that I will never conceive or I am unable too…
Did anyone my age have trpuble? I guess this might be a stupid question as everyones different…
Post # 3
I have heard quite the opposite. Especially on the Bee. I think if you end up having issues conceiving it’ll probably be less due to your age and maybe more because of other health conditions. I wouldn’t worry too much about it! that only creates more stress and pressure.
Post # 4
30 is not a big deal. So I wouldn’t worry about it too much if you are healthy and don’t have issues that you know of.
It is every 5 years after that where things dramatically change
35, 40, and 45… especially so if you haven’t had a previous child / been pregnant before.
35 on… and a whole lot of things come into play… number of vialbe eggs lessen, quality diminishes, your hormones change… and lots of women start the perimenopausal stage. ALL of that plays havoc with those over 35 statistically.
Hope this helps,
Post # 5
I am 37 and officially it took 10 cycles to conceive but I would say by the time I knew my ovulation pattern I would say it took me 6 cycles. This is our 1st pregnancy.
Post # 6
@Daizy914: i am 32 and just started trying 2 months ago.
i know plenty of women who conceived after 30.
Post # 7
I was on birth control for over 18 years. Went off and conceived on our 4th try, I was 38. Unfortunately, that ended in a miscarriage. Waited a month and started trying again, conceived 3 months later – I got my BFP 2 days after my 39th birthday. I’m currently 8 weeks 🙂
Post # 8
@Daizy914: I got pregnant the first fertile week we had unprotected. I was 34 and he was 41. I’m 35 now and set to deliver our baby this week!
Post # 9
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@Daizy914: Unless you have a particular health issue that may prevent you from conceiving, 35 is the magic number where fertility drops significantly. This article seems to be well researched and it compares the old studies and the new ones. http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/
Post # 10
I’ll be 30 in a few weeks, and just found out we are pregnant after 3 cycles of trying (two trying really hard). I wouldn’t worry about it too much unless you think you have other health issues to worry about.
Post # 11
It seems to be a lot of the hysteria about women trying to conceive after 30 is manufactured fear to scare women into motherhood earlier versus forwarding their careers and lifegoals more first. If I get my Phd I’d be 34-35 and I’ve already had ppl tell me not to bother with it because I’d be too old so I should just be happy with what education I have now and start having babies because thats what I’m meant for right?lol being a woman and all *rolls eyes*…Its just scare tactics. It drops sure but not as much as these reports would have you believe. You can have both a career and children or you can wait longer until you feel ready to have kids. Theres no fine line between fertile and not fertile , so don’t worry 🙂
Post # 12
I have secondary fertility issues that need to be managed, however I am not officially TTC again until next fall when I will be 32. That will put me at 33 by time of delivery. I have dealt with “thin PCOS” since I was 22 however, so I don’t think age has much to do with it. Both my mother and my MIL were able to concieve several children well into their thirties without any extra assistance. I know it can be done, so the age factor has never been a concern for me. No worries & Good Luck! 🙂
Post # 13
Nothing magically changes when you turn 30, but your fertility slowly begins to decline around 30. One year likely won’t make much of a difference, but the difference between 25 and 35 could be significant.
Post # 14
@CherryL: Seriously. I’m 28 and have my PhD and no job (trying!!). You never know what’s going to happen!! Also, you can definitely have a baby during graduate school, it’s actually probably a good time if you’re ready otherwise
Post # 15
I am 32 and got pregnant on the first try. Though we ultimately lost the baby at 21w due to severe congenital defects, getting and staying pregnant was no problem, and my doctors have told me to expect the same when we start trying again.
Post # 16
@RunnerBride13: I switched majors with my degree mostly done so thats I’m older for grad school..technically have two undergrads lol….but anyways I’ll wait. There really isn’t a magic line. It declines but it doesn’t go from perfect at 29 to nothing at 30 or perfect at 34 and nothing at 35. Thats just a lot of scare tactics for marketing and whatever. It declines but not enough to worry about