How was your first year of Marriage?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
4040 posts
Honey bee

@Daizy914:  Posting to follow, just curious!

We have been married for 2 1/2 months (but together for 10 years; living together for 5). No real changes so far. If anything, I would say our level of happiness is the highest it has been.

Post # 5
8675 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

We’ll be hitting our first anniversary soon. Truthfully, it wasn’t difficult at all? We don’t argue or fight or bicker, we just took each day as it came. We shared ups and downs and normal difficulties, but I don’t think it was any different than normal day to day living together when we weren’t married.

Post # 6
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve only been married for 4.5 months, but we haven’t had any trouble at all! I would say I’m the happiest I’ve really ever been. I think it’s harder for people who didn’t live with their spouse before they were married. Or people who were still living with their parents, or are virgins on their wedding night. Imagine trying to live with a roomate for the first time, learn how to run a household, and experience sex for the first time? I think those are the people who have a rough first year. That’s a whole lot of change all at once. 

Post # 7
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My husband and I didn’t find it hard at all. It was really fun! We had a couple of small arguments over the year but nothing that we didn’t work out within a day or two. We didn’t live together before we were married either, but getting used to living together wasn’t hard. We were also virgins.

Anyways, it’s not necessarily harder for people who didn’t live together or waited for marriage.  

I liked getting to see him more! Smile


Post # 9
12865 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We moved in together a year before getting married, but that year and the year after getting married was the same as it was before.  There was a little spat here and there about housework, but I think that’s normal when learning to live with anyone.  Other than that, no surprises.

Post # 10
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Daizy914:  Curious to see all the responses! Posting just to follow, as well.

We were virgins and hadn’t lived together until marriage. We didn’t even kiss until engagement :p We’ve had disagreements and some arguments, but nothing really different than before marriage. Being married (and having sex!) has made it easier to work through things and still feel the same amount of closeness after. We’re about 1/4 into our first year and so far it’s been amazing. I love getting to see my husband first thing in the morning and last thing at night 🙂 The occasional fights were over unfulfilled expectations — but the rest of the time I’ve been blown away by how good things are (also beyond my expectations!)


Post # 11
11391 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

It was awesome. Probably the easiest of our entire relationship! But we also moved in together 1 year before we got married. That year was ROUGH, between the stress of wedding planning and the natural adjustment period of living together. I can see why the first year would be hard if you’d not lived together before, but since we had it was great because we had already settled all our living-style disagreements and we had no wedding stress and that year coincided with us both being not too super busy work-wise. 

Post # 12
3097 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - A court...

Married 6 months ago so our first year is halfway through. A few fights here and there (mainly both of us adjusting to living together) but so far.easy peasy.

Post # 13
11469 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

We have been married for about a year and a half now and honestly the first year wasn’t difficult at all. Were there moments of crazy? Absolutely. I think the first year is all about learning what it means to spend “forever” with someone and what roles, duties etc that each person will play/take over in that forever. Our first year was absolutely a pleasure and a blast, even with those moments. I look forward to many more years like the first.

Post # 14
6953 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ours wasn’t much different really, but we’ve been together 9 years lol. If anything it was easier since our finances are combined and such now.

Post # 15
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013


@Benni:  It’s great that it was an easy transition for you! To me experiencing so many new things at once seems scary! 

Post # 16
2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Westwood:  I’m hoping/assuming that’s how things will go for us. We’ll be getting married 9 days after our 9th anniversary, and we’ll have been living together for 4.5 years at the time, so we’ve definitely hammered out most of the kinks at this point! (living together 3 years now) Definitely looking forward to combined finances. Right now we both contribute and aren’t too strict on splitting expenses (he pays for most b/c I’m in grad school), but having one account will make things easier!

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