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She thinks we get along great, but this is bc I mostly keep my mouth shut around her and do not tell her when she is being a huge B. We do not get along.
We get along better than "good" but we aren't BFF, probably b/c we live 30 min away. She doesn't annoy me or bug me (in fact, i was at a family wedding and guffawed about an inappropriate dress someone was wearing and she laughed and elbowed SIL and said "we're tacky like that, too!" haha). We feel the same about a lot of topics and she's really considerate so I can't complain! Now, DH's extended family? They can jump on my last nerve.
i really love my fmil and consider myself sooo grateful for that! she is always very supportive and has good intentions for us. she writes me cute emails from time to time and always makes me feel great:)
We're kinda meh. We get along, but I wouldn't say we are close. In fact, she disliked me for the majority of our relationship and only starting sucking it up when she accepted the fact that FI and I are getting married and she's stuck with me for life LoL. We don't fight or anything, but I don't call her to chat or make plans with her unless I feel obligated.
I really like my FMIL, she's nice and thoughtful. She does get on my nerves when I spend extended time (like over 3 or 4 days) with her. But that's because she lives far away and doesn't get to see us often so when she does see us she is constantly up our butts and super clingy. But otherwise we get along great! We swap recipes by email constantly because we both like to cook!
I would say we get along very well, but we're not close. A large reason for this (I feel) is the language barrier--her first language is Russian and while she understands English and can speak it fine, she is obviously more comfortable speaking Russian and she is not confident in her own ability to speak English.
It actually makes me really sad, because she is such a sweet woman and I really really want to have a close, more than superficial relationship with her. I think it'll take time, and practice on both our parts.
I would get a long a lot better with my FMIL if she wasn't CRAZY! It kind of sucks, our relationship has become much more strained bc of the wedding planning, I used to like her a lot more before she planned the RD and after-wedding brunch with complete disregard to what we wanted or would have liked...But the good news is she doesn't really know this and thinks we get along great, which is all that matters!
We get along pretty well. We don't always see eye to eye on things, but she's nice and means well.
I posted something about this a few weeks ago! Me & FMIL get along fine...she's kind of weird sometimes..& even FI agrees that she's changing a little bit & has gotten a little weird. But she means well & we chat a good bit when we see each other, but we are not best friends by any means! :)
Lol stlginkgo I was going to say pretty much the same thing! If that lady only knew what I really thought about her! But I pretty much stay quiet about it because I just don't think it's worth the over all drama.
I like my mil a lot. She's the complete opposite of my own mom. Don't get me wrong, I love my mom but she can be high maintenence at times... and she tends to make people uncomfortable without even trying. My mil on the other hand is very laid back and easy going. We get along great.
My FI is not very close with his mom (parents are divorced) but she's always kind to me whenever we see her.
We have next to nothing in common so conversations are awkward, but she's nice enough.
I used to get along great with FI's parents but all of that started to change after got engaged. I know they love me and are happy FI and I are getting married (which is what matters most) but they don't get why the wedding is such a big deal/why it is black tie/why my parents are spending so much money etc. and it comes across as detached and disinterested, which really hurts my feelings. I also got a passive aggressive email from FI's mom yesterday morning, so that re-opened hurt feelings on my end. I am also just incredibly different from FI's mom - girlie, outgoing, very social, like fashion, etc. and I think she is amused, if not a little annoyed, that FI chose someone so different from her.
My new strategy is to keep myself surrounded by all (and there are many) family and friends who ARE excited about the wedding, and keep FILs roles limited to only what is required. What else can you do? I certainly don't want their bad outlook to spoil my next few months.
@ Lees4308 - I'm in the same boat as you. She has gotten a little overbearing with the wedding plans as she has no daughters so she is looking at me as her chance to be a MOB. I have let her handle a few details on the wedding to make her feel a part of it, but in the end, she had her wedding many years ago and now it's time for me to have my chance. i'm hoping some of her attitude will change once we are married. who knows.
I don't like my FMIL at all and don't enjoy spending time with her. She has an amazing ability to annoy the heck out of me in 30 seconds.
That said, we don't fight or anything. She is crazy, so I don't even think she knows I dislike her. So we are an "other". I can talk to her or be in a room with her without any tension, I'm just disliking every second of it.
That sounds terrible. FI and his brothers don't like her either, though, so at least my views are no different than theirs.
I get along with my MIL but I pretty much kept her at an arm's length distance and slap a fake smile on my face when I see her. We are not close and I don't want to be close to her. She is one of those people that even if you let them get an inch closer to you, they will not stop until they're running every aspect of your life and giving you unsolicited advice at every chance. She's also a very emotional person, overreacts to things that are not even an issue, very defensive about any criticism she feels are directed at her, and has no sense of humor about herself. I'm also completely different from her in terms of attitude, sense of humor, political, religious, lifestyle view. If she really knew me, she'll either try to change me or be so alarm that her son married me. I'm basically afraid of the woman which is why I choose to keep her at a distance. Even though she only lives 45 mins away from us, I don't have much contact with her other than the obligatory family get-to-togethers. Sometimes, I wish she really knows who I am as a person and how I feel about her.
She is nice and we get along ok. We are not close by any means. The thing that bothers me is that she can come across as fake sometimes so i always wonder what she realllllllly thinks of me.
I actually get along really well with my FMIL too but we're not super close since we live far away and I only see her a couple times a year. We're pretty different, so I don't think we're going to be best friends, but she treats me like I'm her daughter and tries to be a supportive mom to me...in some ways it's an ideal relationship because I get the mom benefits without any of the mom drama that I get with my own mom!
My FMIL and I don't have much in common (she also doesn't have a lot in common with my FI). She's not interested in the wedding really at all, which can be frustrating at time. We get alone okay, but it feels like it is on a really superficial level
my MIL doesnt understand me or where im coming from and we have nothing in common but her son - but i respect her, she raised a good man that she can be proud off and she has always respected my privacy so im lucky
My MIL is the best. I definitely won the MIL (and FIL) lottery!!!
I love my MILs (StepMIL and MIL)! They are both so sweet and very inclusive of me to their families. I wanted very much to gain a new mom(s) rather than just have a formal relationship with them, so I try to keep in touch with them as much as possible (we live far away) and we try to go on vacation together. We just got back from mexico with my parents and Mr. Peng's mom in November... it was really fun! I hope we can move to Minnesota to be closer to his parents one day (since my parents are ditching me and retiring in thailand)! I know I'm pretty lucky and I don't take that for granted.
I adore my FMIL. I'm not as close to her as I am to my own mother (naturally) but I get along better with her, if that makes sense.
His mum and I like each other. At first she didn't think much of me at all and was polite to me, but I think that was a combination of her not really knowing me, and me being too shy to let her know me. No problems since.
The s*** will hit the fan very soon as the dear lady has NO concept of time. She treats her 28 yr old only child like he is 22 (i.e. both would be similar but a lot of 22 yr olds round here still live at home). She knows we will live together in the future, but in her head that's a way away. It is actually 8 months away, and he will be breaking it to her as gently as possible so she doesn't hit the roof* and so she doesn't hate me. I'm not taking him away from her, we will visit them and they will be more than welcome to visit us (100 mile gap between us ATM).
*NB: This seems slightly insane comment to make. It is. For christmas we got his parents wireless telephones with several bases they could scatter in their 3 storey victorian house. His mum got herself into a right mess worrying about where she should put them, caused many arguements and in the end G took them back to the shop and got store credit. I'm still very cross at how ungrateful that was. Moving her only born away from her may cause all manner of madness.
My MIL is nice, but I feel like she tries too hard to be BFFs. I am always nice too but not as close to her as she would want (another daughter.) I guess I'm just not that comfortable around her yet. One hesitation I have is that she is very passive agressive and also kind of a drama queen. For instance I will think that everything is fine and then she will cry to my H that she feels like we are treating her poorly for XYZ reasons. My relationship with her is very similar to one that I would have with a supervisor at work. Friendly, but not too personal.
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How well do you get along with your FMIL? What kind of relationship do you have with her and do you think a positive relationship with your FMIL is important?
Personally, I get along pretty well with my FMIL. We had some growing pains, like I know she would like it if we were even closer, but where we are now is pretty good. She does annoy me sometimes because she is super extroverted, but in general I know that she means well and we get along great. One thing that has surprised me during the planning process is how our relationship has grown. She has been a lot more supportive of me and FI than my own parents which means a lot to me.
I forget who told me this, but I think it was great advice. I was told early on when I got engaged that the best thing that I could do was try to get along with my FMIL and I'm very glad I took the advice. I am fortunate that she is not tough to get along with though!